I have this situation in my family: my mother works from morning till late evening. She has such work that she feels tense the whole day. And every day for her is the same: wake up, go to work, come home, go to sleep. She's the only one who works in our family, so she's trying hard. She's been doing it for... At least fifteen years, or even more. I know she's depressed, a lot. It's not surprising, because she's a very creative person, with great imagination and wide list of interests. But she doesn't have the opporunity to lead the life suitable for a person like her. She's one of the, who are born in wrong place, in wrong time... Like, they doesn't belong where (and when) they are... Or, should I say "we" instead of "they"?!
I love her so much and feel so sorry for her. I wish I could do something to help her, but I'm afraid the only thing I can do is to give an understanding and not trouble her with all these small-minded things that usually go on in the world.
The only thing that makes her feel better is (besides me:)) her virtual life in internet. So, when she comes home, she sits and starts lurking in web. She has friends in internet, people who can understand and support her, those who care and share her interests. So, no wonder she spends a lot of time at the computer (sometimes the whole night).
I don't mind. I mean, of course I worry that she sleeps very little, but she had sleeping problems a long time ago, before we got computer. So, if she can't sleep anyway, why don't spend this time enjoying, doing what she likes?!
But the "head" of our family - my grandmom - doesn't share my oppinion. She's too conservative, too... uhmmm... I don't know how to say this. If anything doesn't fit with her interests, it's impossible for her to imagine why anyone else can't do without it. So, everytime she wakes up late at night and sees my mom sitting at the computer, she starts yelling, like: "Are you trying to kill yourself?!" or "Why can't you be like any normal person?!", or "You're as crazy as your father!" and so on.
It pisses me off! I usually try to not interfere, but sometimes I just can't bare it. About a year ago I had histerical fit, or something like thatm when I couldn't stand anymore. And guess what, she again started yelling at my mother: "See what have you done?!"
I just don't see why she doesn't even try to understand he own daughter?! Why can't people understand that others may be different, even strange and they can't make people to be like them!