• secretlife said on Jan 09, 2008....

  i'm sorry kitty.
  you know, i think you deserve so much better.

• alaskan said on Jan 10, 2008....

  my thing has always been....

  if your other half breaks the trust.....dump them...NO 2nd chance, after doing it once it's a lot easier the second time...

  just broke up with a gal last summer, she broke the trust, I didnt look back. If there were times if I was involved and thinking like that, then it was time to either fix the problem or end it...I hate cheaters

  no worries...move on, and hope the next one is great....this guy doesn't deserve you.

  Bill

• alaskan said on Jan 10, 2008....

  secret life....

   

  so tell me, what is the secret?

• silverwhisper said on Jan 10, 2008....

  i'm confuzzled. why not kick his good for nothing ass out?
  
  ed

• Mamie said on Jan 10, 2008....

  well these shots of reality always catch us off guard, even when we have been silently watching from the side lines...I am sorry for this torment for you. I wish you the peace of knowing exactly what to do now...he does not deserve your profession of love. Don't be afraid. Be madddd!!

• one_wired_kitty said on Jan 10, 2008....

  Husband went for a drive last night after I confronted him about what I found on his myspace page. He said he went for a drive ... never came home last night. Got a call at about 1 am from him saying he was at a [male] co-workers house. Yeah right.

• silverwhisper said on Jan 10, 2008....

  seems to me he's made up his mind about what he wants from life, 1WK. and that sucks. what a transparent jerk!
  
  ed

• one_wired_kitty said on Jan 10, 2008....

  I'm going to see if I can break away from the house long enough b4 I go to work to inquire about divorce papers.

• gingersoul said on Jan 10, 2008....

  One...you story reminds me of mine...so i will say......run as fast as you can....i agree with Alaskan now..

  Then....i gave him a second and even a third chance...he took them and abuse of them...

  Now...i would know better...

  Now....you have to get mad, kick him out of the house, and pick up the broken pieces of your life without him. He is history. Gone. Kaput. 

  The faster you train yourself in thinking like this, the better.

  I am so sorry.

  Alaskan......so what 's your secret?

• rupert7 said on Jan 10, 2008....

  My first wife had an affair just 18 months into our marriage.I forgave her. That just sent her the message that i would always forgive her. She had a stream of affairs and 8 years later demanded a divorce. demanded a divorce.
  
  I say to you,forgive once because it is possible to get caught up in the heat of the moment,to make a mistake. I think everyone deserves a second chance. If they have genuine regret and change there path,......excellent but if they stray again then they will never change. They believe they have the a green light to do whatever they please! It is time to part company permanently. Thats reality. Leave and find the happiness you deserve,it is out there waiting for you!
  

• Eilan said on Jan 10, 2008....

  I'm sorry to hear it.  I've been there, and it sucks.

• one_wired_kitty said on Jan 10, 2008....

  *sigh*
   
  I picked up the divorce kit and burst into tears once I got in my car. I haven't seen him in 3 days now. We were texting earlier today. He said he needed time to think.
   
  Think about what? This marriage is crap and he's a cheating bastard. The marriage is over and there's nothing left to salvage. I don't know wtf there could be left to think about ....

• gingersoul said on Jan 10, 2008....

  I am sorry.......i know how you are feeling right now....its a cold place where you are and it will take time before getting out of there...

  Its exactly 3 years that my ex husband left. I wouldn't be honest if i didn't tell you that some day it still stings.... 

  You will  make it too. Give time to time. Its the only way.  

   

• alaskan said on Jan 11, 2008....

  hey hon...no worries. it'll get worse before it gets better, no question about that. But it WILL get better...if you ever want to talk, or just vent, drop me a line sometime....k? Don't let it kill ya....talk instead. But as I said earlier, I walk 1st time someone does it...because the 2nd and subsequent times it' a lot easier, so it'll just keep happening.
   
  really...drop a line
   
  Bill
  alascar(at)hotmail(dot)com.... you can figure that out...hopefully the bots wont 

• BellaMuse said on Jan 11, 2008....

  Just remember, "Hurt me once, shame on you.  Hurt me twice, shame on me."  Don't allow the vicious cycle to continue.  You have the power to stop it.

• Mamie said on Jan 11, 2008....

  hey Kitty, this is a grieving process ya know? Don't rush through this out of anger or revenge. Even if you know that it truly is over, then take your time and decide what YOU want and how YOU want to do this. YOU are the one who will say...I am thinking about this and I will get back to you, in the meantime, come and get your things, becasue this is unacceptable to me. good luck, you take care of YOU.

• one_wired_kitty said on Jan 11, 2008....

  Tim made his move-out official last night when he stopped by to get some of his stuff. This just doesn't seem real. He informed me that the marrriage is a lie and he never wanted to get married to begin with.

• silverwhisper said on Jan 11, 2008....

  1WK: rake his ass over the coals, i say.
  
  ed

• one_wired_kitty said on Jan 11, 2008....

  Wanna help me set up a coal pit in my back yard? Oh - you don't mean REAL coals, do you?

• Racerboy said on Jan 11, 2008....

  Whats good for the gander is good for the goose? 
  Just kick his sorry ass to the curb and take half his stuff! he deserves it.

• sammies_place said on Aug 17, 2008....

  The Scotsman and I haven't hit the point of getting the divorce papers, but we're awfully close.  He knows it, I know it.  I'm waiting for that big breath and the knowledge that 'It's Time'.  I applaud you for taking that step.  It's a big step.  But
  when it's time, it's time.

• bluewings said on Oct 01, 2008....

  I am so sorry for you. I found this website which is discussing topics related to infidelity and cheating. You may find it helpful for you, it helped me a lot when I was in similar situation, take a look: http://www.searchforbalance.org/ Hugs!

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