• silverwhisper said on Jan 09, 2008....

  i dunno, i tend not to hold w/ the idea of our lives being particularly cyclical. that would imply some external force being responsible for the cyclicality, no?
  
  ed

• the_infernal_optimist said on Jan 09, 2008....

  You know, it had crossed my mind to do a post about this a few days ago, but I don't remember what I was going to say.
  
  I'm not sure my life follows those cycles. At 14, I'd just started high school (and was living with my newly remarried dad). At the tail end of my 21st year, I got pregnant with little one (literally a week or so before I turned 22). I can't speak for 28 yet. I'd say my major life changes came at 13, 18, and 22 (thus far).
  
  While I don't mind the idea of humanity following cycles, I'm not sure everyone's wheel turns at the same general rate. It's definitely an interesting idea!
  
  ~Infernal
  

• destinydiva said on Jan 09, 2008....

  I'm really intrigued by the idea! I'm gonna go work out my 7 year cycles :-) xx

• kruuyai said on Jan 09, 2008....

  ed:  I tend to dismiss this kind of stuff as nonsense, but I'm an empiricist, which is exactly why I did the countdown in my head while I was sitting at the dinner table with my friend who made the comment.  I was amazed at how it worked out.  Without any prejudices about how it is or isn't supposed to work out, why not take a look at the seven-year segments of your life and see if there's any validity to this for you.  I'd be interested to hear the results from as many people as possible.

• kruuyai said on Jan 09, 2008....

  infernal:  I think 13 and 22 are probably close enough to 14 and 21 to fall within the standard deviation.  ;-)   Can you share with us what happened at 18?  I also turned 14 toward the beginning of my first year of high school.  That's a fairly big change in a young life.  Also, most people (in the US) graduate from college at 21 or 22 and begin their careers.  It would be interesting to see if this stuff varies from country to country.

• kruuyai said on Jan 09, 2008....

  destiny: Come on back and let us know!  :)

• the_infernal_optimist said on Jan 09, 2008....

  Fair enough there, kruu. :)
  
  I moved out of my dad's house (and in with my best friend) in a half-move, half-escape/rescue the day after my 18th birthday. It was a lot more dramatic than it sounds, and looking back, I think it was at least as stupid as it was necessary. It was a case of things hitting the crisis point and shattering, and I ran.
  
  I also started college, got burned in my only serious online relationship, and met the people who would become my closest college buddies (and the man who would become my husband) that year. Quite a year!
  
  ~Infernal
  

• beyondtheveil said on Jan 09, 2008....

  kruu- The seven year cycles don't seem to fit my life except that at age 21 I could legally become a lush. I'll have to write down the big dates in my life and see if there is anything cyclic.
  
  By the way, with a masters in oceanography, why did you avoid the ocean after leaving the US? Or were you ever involved with the ocean?
  

• kruuyai said on Jan 09, 2008....

  beyondce:  Good to see you again.  How have you been?  I'm not sure that the seven year cycles mean that something significant has to happen precisely at each seven year break.. rather that each seven year period is characterized by a certain way of life, or path, or something like that.  Does that make sense?  And, of course, some of these things don't change overnight, but transition over a period of time, so I'd give or take a year for major events and still find this theory relatively valid.  Come on back after you've taken a walk down memory lane and let us know what you found out.
  
  Was I ever involved with the ocean?  Well, most of my early years were spent close to a large body of water.. first Lake Michigan, then Long Island Sound and Great South Bay, and then Tampa Bay.  But then, I moved to Colorado (when I was 31) and haven't lived near the ocean since.  I really miss it, and I'm consciously trying to think of a way to get myself back to the water (being a Scorpio and all, which is a water sign... hence, my affinity for the sea).  I never really did work with the ocean though.  Even in grad school, I did a groundwater thesis.... "A Geophysical Determination of the Thickness of the Fresh Water Lens, Upper Glacial Aquifer, Fire Island, New York."  What a mouthful, eh?
  

• polarheart said on Jan 09, 2008....

  Kruu, next year - 49 will be your jubilee year!  There is a lot in the Bible about 7 year cycles, particularly relating to the cultivation of land and there definitely tends to be a lot of cycles of 7 in the rest of the Bible too.  I know that in the at the end of the 7th cycle of 7 years is called the Jubilee year and cause for great celebration!!  I could let you have the relevant scriptures if you were at all interested.
   
  I cant remember what happened at age 7, but at 14 I became a Christian, at 21 I met Mr Polar and married him the day before my 22nd birthday, at 28 we bought a house for the first time.  I am still thinking what was specifically significant about 35.
   
  Polar x

• beyondtheveil said on Jan 09, 2008....

  kruu- I wrote out dates and have come up with definite paths and life changing happenings in not seven, but the four fourteen year cycles I've lived (yes, I'm at least 56!). Seven year cycles will still take more work.
  
  If you don't mind telling, where did you get your undergraduate and graduate degrees? Was that in the New York City area? Great South Bay is Long Island, right?
  

• beyondtheveil said on Jan 09, 2008....

  Sorry, I didn't mean is, but by Long Island. 

• kruuyai said on Jan 09, 2008....

  polar:  I would definitely be interested in taking a look at those scriptures, but I don't have a bible, so if they're short, maybe you can quote them to me?  Or is the bible available online?  That's pretty cool that you're finding regular seven year cycles in your life as well.  Let us know what you come up with for 35.  I'm still pondering 7 for myself.

• kruuyai said on Jan 09, 2008....

  beyond:  Oh well, don't worry if your cycles come every 14 years instead of 7.  We all do things in our own time, and being slow is nothing to be ashamed of ... lol. 
  
  I got my undergrad degree in Wisconsin and my master's on Long Island, as you guessed.
  

• polarheart said on Jan 09, 2008....

  Kruu, sorry I just found and read the scripture and it says that the 50th year is set aside as a Jubile

  CLICK HERE TO READ FOR YOURSELF

  I will come back to you if I come up with something re 7 and 35.

  Polar x

• Twylarants said on Jan 09, 2008....

  I've heard the 7-year theory, but about the body...your health. That's how it is with me, anyway.  Every 7 years or so something seems to go wrong.  I'm not looking forward to 63.

• Lioness said on Jan 09, 2008....

  Wow, you have a very adventurous life!! I find this interesting kruu.. It makes me think of the 3 cycles I've had so far... 

• moonriver said on Jan 09, 2008....

  ah, for the first time, the great kruu presents her mayan life cycles in 6 easy pieces, with the 7th coming up soon. you certainly led a rich and varied life, my friend. are the two of us in some kinda competition here? lol.
  
  my own "life cycle" doesn't look that symmetrical. milestone years would be when i was 12, 15, 20, 30, 36, 42, and 50.
  
  i'd be interested if you blog some more about the things you did in your 3rd cycle (14-21). i see quite a few similarities with my equivalent period that started with a violent death when i was about to turn 15, when i and, right after my 15th birthday, turned into a summer radio kid.
  
  
  

• kruuyai said on Jan 10, 2008....

  polar:  That was interesting.  It seems to indicate that even nature shares this cycle with us.  I wonder if this means I should take a year's rest every seven years?  Not a bad idea... maybe we all should do that.
  
  Twyla:  Well now, it doesn't say that each seven-year period has to go in the same direction... maybe the next one will bless you with something really amazingly good that happens to your body.  (I just took another look at the phrase "seven-year period" and it made me see red... not a pretty sight... hope you can avoid that one!  lol)
  
  Lioness:  Do tell us about them!
  
  muun:  While your life cycle doesn't fit the pattern as neatly as mine, with the exception of "12," your milestones hover around the sevens, never straying by more than one year, except for thirty (which only strays by two years... maybe it was early in your 30th year?).  I remember those posts.  I don't think I can compete with that active a life.  :) 
  
  Now that I think more about 14-21, in terms of career... I remember that I started taking Printing classes in my junior year (which would have been 15 rather than 14), and I took two full years of it, and then after high school, I took a one-year diploma course at a vocational school in Printing & Publishing, and then I worked full time as a paste-up artist for a year and a half in the PR department of an engineering college.  Then I worked full time in a print shop... customer service, some paste-up, etc, and while I was doing that, I started working part-time as a freelancer for the in-house ad agency of a major corporation in my city.  My full-time work in the area of Printing and Graphic Arts ended when I entered the university at age 21, but I continued freelancing part time for the first year of college, and then for the rest of my college years except for the last semester, I supported myself by working part time at another print shop.  At the age of 21, I also got engaged to a guy who worked as a printer.  The marriage did not last seven years. 
  

• queenparanoia said on Jan 10, 2008....

  youre life is ver fascinating kruu!!!

  well let's see seven years ago i was 14...

  nothing much happened... although i dreamed that by the age of 21 i should have a boyfriend. lose weight and graduated college.. which of course none happened...

  it was fine though. i like my life now... =)

• lalalalalala said on Jan 10, 2008....

  This 7 year itch/cycle thing doesn't work for me. I've faced significant life changing events every year since age 13. Plus, I'm not old enough! HaHa!

• kruuyai said on Jan 10, 2008....

  queen:  You made some pretty significant changes around the age of 21.  You decided to quit studying engineering and take control of your own life instead of living your life to please other people, you decided to pursue your dream of becoming a pastry chef, you've soared to new heights of self-esteem... these are all major changes that will color the next seven years of your life and beyond.  I hope we're both here seven years from now to be able to take a look at your 21-28 cycle!  :)
  
  lala: Hi!  Thanks for stopping by.  By the way, I like your name.  :)  I've also faced significant life-changing events every year (and sometimes every month, especially lately), but what I did for this, was to try and look at the overall feel of each seven-year period.  What was I doing (mostly) between the age of 21 and 28 for example.  It could be career, relationships, extracurricular activities, mental health, almost anything, and it doesn't necessarily have to be marked by a huge, life-changing event.  I wonder if you can group your yearly life-changing events into the seven-year segments and see any patterns?
  

• queenparanoia said on Jan 10, 2008....

  kruu: i'm sure we will... =)

• lalalalalala said on Jan 10, 2008....

  Hey! It doesn't work for me! No patterns! It's erratic! Thanks for liking my name!

• kruuyai said on Jan 10, 2008....

  queen:  Cool!  It's a date, then.
  
  lala:  Ah well, we'll have to put a tick mark on the other side, then.  :)
  

• moonriver said on Jan 10, 2008....

  kruu -- i see your point about my milestones hovering around multiples of seven. verry interesting... will you be available when i hit the next milestone around 4 yrs from now? ... :-)
  
  

• ninjapirate said on Jan 10, 2008....

  Well I had to write it all out for myself since I tend to group things in terms of school years, I'm not sure why that is.  I don't see to much corrolation with seven year increments, but I can try.   At the age of 7 I was in the second grade and I had made what I think to be is my first real best friend.  We did everything together and got along well.  Unfortunetly the next year she chose the more popular rich kids to hang out with, which I still hate her for.  I have issues I know, maybe thats where they started, hmmm.  At 14, I just thought of this, I had discovered the internet and was in love with this guy I had found in a chat room, I still think about him every now and then.  We got along amazingly, but it did not end well.  This led to me losing a lot of weight though, around 80 lbs.  Then the year after that the worst thing ever happened to me, I lost my Dad, which is the most significant thing to happen to me ever.  At 21, well just before 21 my boyfriend of two years broke up with me and a few months of being 21, I met my mean bad friend whom I'm still interested in unfortunetly.  I see a sad pattern, that's no good, I'm going to try to think of what happy things may have happened.  Fun post!           

• hotaka said on Jan 10, 2008....

  I was just working my way through the Chinese Zodiac with life having 12 year cycles. So, seven is now the magic number, is it?

  Okay, when I was 21 I finally got out of a destructive relationship, moved back to my parents', rekindled a couple of valuable friendships and started a job at a company that would employ me until I quit seven years later. During this period I began traveling around Canada and photographing and getting my photographs published a few times a year.

  When I was 28 I left Canada and came to Japan. That meant restarting a lot of things and finding a new way. It was also the start of many new realtionships. I also started traveling internationally too.

  When I was 35 I came back to Japan after having gone home for just over a year. I started a new job in a different city and began getting my articles published as well as my photos. That was almost two years ago. So I am curently on this new cycle and trying to make the best of it.

  Hey, Kruupie. Did you write a post about toilets?

• lfbno7 said on Jan 10, 2008....

  When I was 7 I collected baseball cards and got the flu and got skipped in school. When I was 14 I liked the Beatles and pop music in general, and had a lot of fun. When I was 21 I was already married, and a college grad, joining the working world, putting on the yoke, becoming a slave. When I was 28 I was going through marital hell, learning about my wife's infidelities. When I was 35 I developed a crush on Susanna Hoffs and I reached the peak of my success professionally. When I was 42 I was surfacing from more marital hell, not too dissimilar to the crap going on at 28. When I was 49 I fell in love with a lesbian online. When I was 56 nothing in particular happened, that being last year. Is there a 7 year pattern that is detectable?

• skald said on Jan 10, 2008....

  Kruu. That is amazing. I always heard that your hair and skin were completely new every seven years but you lead a new life every seven years. That is you go in to a new direction then. Your  life has really been full of experiences. You live your life alive.
  
  Yes your first 7 years were important then you were learning as you said. You said  you had to ponder on 7-14 but you sure were at school then learning too.
  I have not worked my pattern out. thank you for an interesting post.   

• moonriver said on Jan 10, 2008....

  kruu -- reviewing my milestones, i now realize that the age 27-28 produced more watershed events (marriage to sophie, new life in a new land, the "indigenous pig" period that i blogged about, and other related changes in my life) than events at age 30 (birth of first-born, sudden onset of new responsibilities). your 7-year cycles seem roughly valid in my case... so far.
  
  

• pickersplock said on Jan 10, 2008....

  I'm lucky if I can remember what I did seven days ago, but I do remember getting rid of a loser boyfriend around 21.  I'll be 42 this year, so we'll have to see what milestone comes my way.

• Mamie said on Jan 10, 2008....

  hi there! Oh, I definitley have the patterns you speak of. I have called them phases...and each had its own teachings and milesones. This idea is also talked about by author Ilanya Vansant. (One day my soul just opened up....)...here are mine...
  In my teen years, I learned quickly, loved deeply and found out that I could and should love myself the most. So, I had a change of heart.
   
  In my early twenties, I learned how to become a partner to my husband and I left some friends but made some new ones. Later,  I climbed the professional ladder all the way to the top and found the view nice but the company sucked, it made me lonely. I had a change of mind.
   
  In my thirties I found that my child reminded me how potent unconditional love is and I applied the learning to family and friends. Some rejoiced, others jumped a mile and ran in a hurry. I had a change of heart again, it got bigger.
   
  In my late thirties I was connected to heaven by losing a dear one. Hindsight made me less judgmental on all that I thought I knew from prior phases. I had a change of mind again.
   
  In my forties I am learning that everything I thought I knew was just my own version of it. I found out that the synchronicities in my life were choreographed and that I need only hang on to the world with a pinkie and let my feet dangle over the edges of it.
  Tomorrow, I will learn more. I think this is a change of heart. Again.

• RollingC said on Jan 10, 2008....

  Interesting....got to go to work now but I'll  definitely think about this.  I know that there are cycles in life as in ups and downs but I've never broken it down like a bio-rhythm chart. 
  Rc.
  

• momsrock said on Jan 10, 2008....

  hmmm...I'm not sure about what might have happened when I was 7, I can't remember details that far back! But when I was 14, I started high school and met someone that changed my life. When I was 21, I decided not to go back to school and got a job instead....I worked there until a few months before I turned 28 when I decided to go back to school. My marriage and birth of children doesn't fit the cycle, but a lot of other changes do.

• uniquely-ironic said on Jan 10, 2008....

  My cycles don't seem to be a tight fit, but that aside-

  1-7) Lived with both of my parents and was a happy child

  8-14) Lived with my mom after divorce and struggled with my self image since I was being raised in a very conservative church who looked at divorce as a very bad thing. 

  15-21) Went to boarding high school and then college.  My educational phase.

  22-28) My looking for Mr. Right phase.  I also was out of the house on my own learning about the world.  I gave up the religion of my childhood at this phase.

  29-35) I started my family here.  I was trying to create a "normal" family which I had to make up since I had no real role models for it.

  36-42) I was beginning to realize that my life didn't fit into the normal family mold.  I discovered eastern philosophy and began to study buddhism.  I ended my marriage.

  42-49)  I'm still working on this.  Will let you know how it turns out.

• PassionTraveler said on Jan 10, 2008....

  The real 7 year cycle is cellular. At every 7 years, our body has completely shed the old and regenerated the new cells in our body. None of the old cells exist anymore. They have been replaced with the new and improved upgraded models so to speak. LOL
  
  But it also stands to reason that the same 7 year cycle can apply at the level of the whole body, mind and spirit.
  
  My own would be the following:
  
  7: The usual growth, but also, my parents both left when I was 18 months old, so I was raised mostly by my grandparents. At age 7, I met my mother for the first time in my conscious young life and continued holiday and summer vacation visitations with her until my adulthood.
  
  14: My grandfather, who raised me, died of oat cell lung cancer thus ending a beloved buffer between my grandmother and I, and a battle between she and I that continued to her death bed.
  
  21: Got married. Graduated college, got pregnant, and lost my stillborn daughter, and stopped talking to my grandmother for a year because she blamed me for the stillbirth (for no real rational reason, but to her, someone had to be blamed, so it was me), got pregnant again and lost that one too as a miscarriage.
  
  28: Nothing significant stands out in this period, although I'm sure I focused more heavily on my journalism career.
  
  35: By this age, eventually ended my marriage, moved to Southern California in the desert, continued an affair with an Italian diplomat that really changed my life in ways I couldn't have expected, visited three countries: Costa Rica, Colombia, Canada and four if you count Tijuana, Mexico (I rarely count border towns), ended the affair with the Italian, and started an entirely new career in PR, Marketing, and SEO, and had met and moved in with Steven and moved from the desert to Los Angeles.
  
  42: I'm 39 now, (40 in June) and still waiting to see what happens for this 7 year period, but so far, I've lost Steven and am starting to rebuild my life again.
  
  PT

• lalalalalala said on Jan 10, 2008....

  Kruu: OMG! Ok so after reading ninja's post, I see a recurring theme in my timeline. Ok, I know, I said the 7 yr. cycle didn't work. But I also see potential for it. Age 7 I must have been in 2nd grade too (like ninja). My first best friend did move away at the end of that year. I was sad. Around 14 I moved for the second or maybe third time (I count little moves, but my parents probably would skip the little move I'm counting). Also around that time I had my first boyfriend, nothing major really. Hmmm...and at 21 I moved again. So my recurring theme is me moving. I don't really like that. Plus, the erratic-ness of my life since age 13 doesn't sit well with me...maybe I was trying to deny the cycle because I didn't like what I saw?

   

• kruuyai said on Jan 10, 2008....

  Hey!  some of you are really getting the hang of this!  Others are still thinking only in terms of milestones, which isn't necessarily the way it works, but oh well.
  
  muun:  ho ho, you just gave away your age.  You bet I'll be around to help you celebrate the end of that cycle... or better yet, the beginning of the next one.  My place or yours?
  

• kruuyai said on Jan 10, 2008....

  ninja:  Your 14-21 year period seems to have produced a lot of significant change... changes in your body image and a traumatic changed in your family life with your dad dying.  Now, you seem to be in a period where this mean bad friend dominates your life.  I don't know how far you are away from 28, but if you have a long way to go, I hope you don't wait for the end of the era before you purge your life of that friend.  You see a sad pattern, but that doesn't mean that it has to stay that way.  You've got power over your own life... you get to write the script, and you can decide right now how this seven year period will play out.  Good luck!  {{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}

• kruuyai said on Jan 10, 2008....

  hotcakes:  Oh no!  Now there's a 12 year cycle too?  This is getting to be too much work!  lol  Your seven-year cycles seem pretty well defined.  I'd like to see what your twelve year cycles look like.  Although you're two years into this new cycle, it seems to me that this one is going to be characterized by family (as well as other things, no doubt).  How long have you and K been together?
  
  I did write a post about toilets.  I posted the link for you on picker's post, but I guess you didn't go back there yet.  It's called Culture Shock 101 - Toilets Around the World.  Moonriver followed it up with his own post on toilets, called Life With Indigneous Pigs.  So, you're thinking about writing a post about toilets, too?  Dang, man, I would think after posting the Origin of the Feces, you would have all of this shit out of your system! 
  
  Kruupie.... hmmmmmmm, sounds a bit like a disease.  Something you get from drinking out of the toilet bowl, for instance.  :p
  

• kruuyai said on Jan 10, 2008....

  7:  Well, it looks like you had some milestones at some of those breaking years, but try to look not only at what was happening right at ages 7, 14, 21, 28, etc.  Instead, try to look at each seven year period.. 0-7, 8-14, 15-21, etc. and see what the overall theme of your life was during those periods and if it changed significantly somewhere around the 7-year mark.  Hey, with a name like "7," this should be a piece of cake for you.  lol

• kruuyai said on Jan 10, 2008....

  skald:  I didn't know that about the hair and the skin.  Thanks for sharing that.  I hope you work out your seven year cycles and share it with us.  I'm really enjoying reading about how this all breaks down for other people

• kruuyai said on Jan 10, 2008....

  muun:  Very cool.  I think your changes at age 30 were a continuation of the changes at age 28.  Perhaps your period from 28-35 was characterized by "change" in general?

• kruuyai said on Jan 10, 2008....

  pickers:  lol... maybe you could start out slowly by doing a few seven-day cycles and work your way up to the years when you've built up a bit of confidence.  :p

• kruuyai said on Jan 10, 2008....

  Mamie:  You are such an artist.  The way you paint the picture of your life and its seven year cycles is like an artist painting with broad strokes in the lovliest of colors.  It was pure pleasure reading that.  Thanks for sharing with us.  Psssst... I'm learning the same things in my forties that you're learning in yours.  I just wouldn't have been able to write it so eloquently.

• kruuyai said on Jan 10, 2008....

  RollingC:  Please come back and share with us when you get it worked out!  

• kruuyai said on Jan 10, 2008....

  momsrock:  I know.  I could probably come up with plenty of things in my own life that don't fit the cycle either.  When you think about it, not everyone can get married, have kids etc. just when their age is a multiple of 7!  lol   (still, it's amazing for how many people it has worked out that way, isn't it?)  By the way, it's been good to have you back on SC and with your old name again.  :)

• kruuyai said on Jan 10, 2008....

  uniquely:  I really like the way you did this.  Posting the periods as periods rather than just talking about the milestones.  I guess I set a bad example by the way I wrote my post, and got a lot of people confused.  From what you've said, your fit looks fairly tight to me.  You certainly have gone through some phases, anyway.  How far are you away from the end of your 7th cycle?  Is it too early to see how it's characterized?

• kruuyai said on Jan 10, 2008....

  Passion:  It does stand to reason that, if we don't even have the same body anymore, that other parts of our existence might go through changes as well.  This is really fascinating to me.  Your 28-35 year cycle really seems to be characterized by a lot of change.  Are you hoping to continue with another change-filled period, or would you prefer that things settle down for a while?

• kruuyai said on Jan 10, 2008....

  lala:  Hmmm, could be.  But your cycles seem tied to a particular place... seven years in this place, seven years in that place, etc.  Why does that bother you?  Is it because of the people you're leaving behind, or perhaps the instability that it might represent to you?

• uniquely-ironic said on Jan 10, 2008....

  I'm about 1/2 way through my 7th cycle, so I'm starting to see the theme of the cycle.  I hope it is my "coming to terms with myself and my life" cycle.

• kruuyai said on Jan 10, 2008....

  uniquely:  That sounds like a really nice goal for your seventh seven years.   Good luck with it.  :)

• skald said on Jan 10, 2008....

  No Kruu it is so uncler. 0-7 a small child. 7 starting school. 14 still at school, working in summers. 15-25 traveling, school, working no there is no pattern. 28 married, and it goes on an on but not 7 year pattern. 

• Mamie said on Jan 10, 2008....

  why thank you my dear Kruu: takes one to know one *swak!! Mamie ((((hugs))))

• PassionTraveler said on Jan 10, 2008....

  Kru, You asked:  Your 28-35 year cycle really seems to be characterized by a lot of change.  Are you hoping to continue with another change-filled period, or would you prefer that things settle down for a while?
  
  My Answer: Since 42 isn't that far away, I am thinking this period will be characterized by a much slower pace, but the big things I want to happen by then -- to find a true partner (mate), have a baby (maybe adopt), master a few languages and live abroad for at least a short while, and hopefully, complete and have my first book published. Calm would be nice, yes. And I'm definitely ready for more positive things to happen as well. Change is fine, but I don't want drama or chaos, just gentle positive change.
  
  PT

• lalalalalala said on Jan 10, 2008....

  Kruu: I've actually spent less than 7 years in nearly every place I've lived in. But, yes...instability is it!

• destinydiva said on Jan 10, 2008....

  
  pt my goodness, you have been through so much trauma, yet your so with it still! many including me would break down after so many awful happenings, I really admire your strength ((((((((((((hugs))))))))) 
  
  
  kru...  I have been thinking about this since i first read this post :-)
  
  7   moved house, and schools, same town around this age, I cant remember much else from then...
  
  14  I started my first serious relationship, the guy I still think about now, myfirst true love ....and I lost my nanna, who was the core of my life!  I also started to explore myself as a person and became rebellious and my desire for freedom and independance kicked in right about this time
  
  20/21   very much a transitional stage in my life! I had got the all clear from cancer a year earlier, a relationship that was fun and happy but one that was never gonna be forever anyways ended...  and the disastrous relationship with my husband to be was in its first year. I had grown a lot spiritually and was just finding out who I was and what i was ,where i wanted to be in life, what i wanted from life....  but it was all battered to empty dreams in the 7 years that followed  I made a choice at this stage in my life, and it definitly wasnt the right choice!!  but everything happens for a reason right??  :-)  there was some happy times through this stage, plus my second daughter was born during this cycle and I wouldnt change having her for anything!!
  
  
  27/28 I had my 3rd child, and realised that my marriage was killing me, mind body and spirit wise!!  I realised that my mind and soul was being stomped on crushed, suffocated, dragged right out of me...and my physical health was beginning to show the damage.. I knew at this point that I had to make a choice yet again! this cycle was defo coming to an end around this time!!
  I left my husband a year later.
  
  34/35   I am only just 30 so I guess I am still in the early stages of this cycle, I have started a degree which will be complete by my next 7 year mark. I have took up on my spiritual journey again and hopefully that will reach a point of contentment in the next few years. I am adjusting to life as a single parent, I am finding myself again, I am really starting to come out of my shell. I am becoming the person i want to be and hopefully by the time this cycle ends and a new one is about to begin, I'll be at a good place in my life :-)
  
  
  I really believe in  this 7 year itch idea!! :-) xx
  

• destinydiva said on Jan 10, 2008....

  (the 14-21 cycle was a real time of changes, adjustments, and learning for me, mistakes and seriously beginning to grow up!! the whole cycle was a  time of discovery, expoloration, and learning  those years definity helped shaped who i am today, i can see the whole period as a cycle in my life) did that make any sense?? :-) xx
  
  (I think if you look at it as the whole 7 years of each instead of just the actual milestones, it becomes more  obvious the whole cycle 7 year thing... and i defo think there is a link as pt mentioned between the bodys 7 year cycle! interesting stuff!!  :-) xx
  

• kruuyai said on Jan 11, 2008....

  skald:  Ah well, I guess we'll have to put a tick mark on the left side of the paper for you, then.  :)
  
  Mamie:  Thanks.  {{{{{{{{hgus}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} to you, too.  (You see.. mine always come out a little lopsided... no sense of balance.  :)
  
  Passion:  "find a true partner (mate), have a baby (maybe adopt), master a few languages and live abroad for at least a short while, and hopefully, complete and have my first book published."     LOL..... that sounds like a lot of change to me.  But you're absolutely right that it could be slow, steady, progressive change, which is really different from the upheaval and drama that other kinds of changes can cause.  May you find your peaceful change.  

• kruuyai said on Jan 11, 2008....

  lala:  In which seven-year period do you predict that that will change?  (the instability)
  
  destiny:  You definitely have fit a lot into your lifetime so far.  Yes, it does become a lot more obvious if you look at the whole 7 years as an era rather than looking for milestones.  It's really neat that you could pinpoint your 14-21 year cycle as being the one that determined who you are today.  I'm not sure if I can do that... well, maybe I can if I think about it, but that will have to wait for another day, because I am so tired right now.  And yes, destiny, I too believe that everything happens for a reason.  :)
  

• PassionTraveler said on Jan 11, 2008....

  DD, thanks. I'm strong. I know it's connected somehow to my purpose in life. Something happened over the course of yesterday and today where a few of my friends separately told little white lies so as not to hurt my feelings about whatever the momentary issue. It's something I don't tolerate. I ask that everyone just be straight with me. One proved to be a misunderstanding, but the others were caught, and forgiven and asked not to repeat. All of us are fine with each other now.
  
  The one that was a misunderstanding, before we clarified, I told him, I am strong. If I can go through all I've been through in life and still maintain a positive outlook, surely you can't think I'm so fragile that you would need to tell some white lie to avoid confronting me. I don't bite. I talk things out, which is why we're talking now. I won't let things go if I know the air needs clearing. He's just like me in that regard, and thankfully, I was given wrong information. His was a misunderstanding.
  
  Kru, yeah, it's a lot of change, I realize, but they are desired changes, and as I said, changes if they come peacefully and comfortably would be nice. LOL
  

• hotaka said on Jan 11, 2008....

  Sure there's 12-year cycles. You told me you were one cycle ahead of me. Remember?
  K is part of my 28th year start cycle. First seven years dating, a brief moment of utter disaster a now my life partener, starting from March.
  

• kruuyai said on Jan 12, 2008....

  hotaka:  oh, does this have something to do with the year of the pig and all that jazz?  That's pretty cool how it worked out with K.  May you have many seven-year cycles to look forward to together.  :)

• lalalalalala said on Jan 12, 2008....

  kruu: I don't see that happening anytime soon. It be great to attain stability today. I'd welcome it any day!

• kruuyai said on Jan 12, 2008....

  lala:  I hope you find what you're looking for.  :)

• lalalalalala said on Jan 12, 2008....

  kruu: I don't even know what that is! but thanks = ~ }

• kruuyai said on Jan 12, 2008....

  lala:  That really is the challenge, isn't it?  

• lalalalalala said on Jan 12, 2008....

  kruu: yes and i hate it! grrrrrrrr!

• kruuyai said on Jan 13, 2008....

  lala:  Think of your life as unlimited opportunity, and then paint it as you will.  :)

• lalalalalala said on Jan 13, 2008....

  kruu: i will sure try to look at it that way! thanks! :~)

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