• gailalush said on Aug 04, 2006....

  my parents broke-up 3 years ago.. haven't been visiting my hometown by choice for quite some time and i've heard that my dad is suffering stroke.. couldn't deny that he gave and left bruises to our hearts. i think your dad is opposite of mine so if i am her daughter what i'll be doing is to be with him as much as i can be. Presence really matters.

• silverwhisper said on Aug 04, 2006....

  starlight: at the risk of being blunt, there's a good chance you won't get many more opportunities. would you rather not make use of the opportunities and carry that regret for the rest of your life? look, as your father, he knows that words aren't enough. even with the biggest damned vocabulary in human history, english doesn't have enough words to tell him how much he's meant, how grateful you are to him, how much his support over the years has meant. so accept that. i'm sure he knows. but you need to say this for yourself. please do. ed

• 00purple666 said on Aug 04, 2006....

  Having lost my best friend last year suddenly, The one thing I wish I could change would be telling her more that I loved her.Tell your dad how much he makes your life good etc and that you love him, My thoughts go to you x

• Expendable said on Aug 04, 2006....

  Be with him.

• allaroundgirl said on Aug 04, 2006....

  Words may not be enough but you have to say them. Be with him. Do something for him, sometimes actions really do speak louder than word, but the words they are important. Maybe in his ears they will be enough. My grandmother has a saying...[color=blue]"In life"[/color=blue], she says. Afterwards its just no good.

• CreativeWoman said on Aug 04, 2006....

  Starlight, I just went through this sort of goodbye with my brother this past October. He died of cancer. He looked like he had been in a concentration camp at the end. It was very hard but when the end was near, I stayed with him at the hospital. I held his hand. I told him I loved him. I told him to let go and go toward the light. He was only 34. He and I had our differences as siblings. We let that go when he was diagnosed. I asked for forgiveness for judgments I had made about him and he forgave me. He faced his cancer with grace and courage. He was the poster boy for Tim McGraw's song, "Live Like You Were Dying". I will never ever regret being there when he passed. Our whole immediate family was there. Yes, I will always remember how he looked, his last breath, and it will always haunt me. But, I just know he took that love with him when he went to heaven. He knew we were there. Go to your dad and tell him everything you want him to know. Do it now. Even if you think he won't hear you, do it anyway. Lean into his hear and whisper that you love him for everything. You will never regret it. You might if you don't.

• JadeLondon said on Aug 06, 2006....

  Spend as much time with him as you can. I lost one grandmother to bone cancer, another--the kidneys. It always bothered me that I didn'tr spend more time with them when they alive.

• JadeLondon said on Aug 06, 2006....

  Were alive! I meant to say "were alive". Sorry!

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