Its a weird feeling and kind of awkward being the only single person among my group of friends. There are times when I don't spend time with them because they do couple things. Other times it jsut feels like I am the 5 wheel or something.
New Years Eve for example I had a wonderful time. We laughed and told jokes, Jason played the guitar like old times. It was fun. Then the countdown came. Everyone had someone to kiss and what not while I sat waiting for a phone call that never came. I was the only single young person there. D's father like person was there, but he's 53 so he doesn't count LOL.
All my friends are either married, engaged, or in long term relationships and here I am having my heart played with by at the moment two different guys. You all know of Sam, and then there was Terry, but he stated the other night that he doesnt want to get married again or have anymore kids (he's divorced with 2) so we are at two different points in life and want two different things. So that wont work out, but we're still close good friends.
I know I have high expectations and I am not lowering them in order to find prince charming, because if I do, then maybe I'll find a frog, not my prince. I have been so lonely that I considered calling the ex and trying to work things out again when I know that would NEVER work.
I know everyone tells me be patient he will come. Don't think about it...blah blah blah. But when you are the only single person among friends it's hard. It's hard being 25 and single sometimes. I'm not into the club or bar scene, not a real fan of dating sites...I've gone out on the limb with guys I thought had an interest only to fall so I'm a little weary about doing it again.
I'm frustrated and ranting...dont mind me......
rmuxagirl posted on Jan 04, 2008
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uniquely-ironic said on Jan 04, 2008....
I was one of the last in my "pod" of friends to get married. I remember that 5th wheel feeling. It's not fun. I do think you're on the right track about not settling for someone just to have company. Hang in there. -
queenparanoia said on Jan 04, 2008....
yeah i know what you mean... it sucks doesn't it??? well dont worry the prince may come someday... gotta be patient!!! =) -
cntlvmenuf said on Jan 04, 2008....
I've been in your shoes (Ha! I'm still in them)...I'm actually glad to hear you are not lowering your standards and willing to kiss a whole bunch of frogs (we were deceived...they never turn to prince charming). Its hard....For me its hard because I don't have a lot of friends...no one I hang out with in RL. If you make friends easily, I would recommend expanding your circle of friends to include single ones too. Put yourself out there....(not easy as it sounds...and I am trying!). Oh well...I guess I'm not one to give advice....seeing that I'm trying to figure out the same issue you are dealing with. -
rmuxagirl said on Jan 04, 2008....
Well I don't make friends easily. It's hard for me to find friends that I trust as much as I trust the ones that I do have. I have maybe 4 or 5 close friends that I do a lot with. -
cntlvmenuf said on Jan 07, 2008....
Hmmm....well....do they have single friends....or do you trust them enough to have them hook you up with a blind date? You can do a double or triple date (unless you've already tried this) -
rmuxagirl said on Jan 08, 2008....
well the best friend doesn't her and i basically run in the same circle. Harry on the other hand not sure if i trust him enough to hook me up, but maybe his wife....I'mma use that as a last resort.... -
redgoose said on Jan 10, 2008....
As a former professor, I used to think that my social
life was complete but I was all wrong about that. When I was forced to retire due to injuries a while back, It soon became apparent that my life was lived in a vacuuum and I didn't like it at all. Never a smoozer, I decided to go back to school as a student again. This proved satisfactory as it seems when there is a common interest or goal the natural barriers to interaction drop away.
Why school? I'm not good in unstructured social situations. Single people are at a disadvantage. I don't like to be catorgorized and school is a great equalizer. I don't feel the need to compete. I can talk with anyone without feeling uncomfortable.
So, if you don't like bars go to school. Church is another place to meet people your own age. Dances are good. the internet can be a little disappointing or can be the answer to someones dreams. How do you meet people? Or have you given up, preferring to establish a nice little nook on the internet , feeling safer here?
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