Oh Boy.  Where do I start?  Well, as those of you who have been following my Wedding Date Countdown know, I was supposed to be blissfully married by now.  And as it turns out, I'm not.  You gotta hear this.

On December Sixteenth, Friday, J came home and told me that he had gotten some really bad news that would effect our getting married on New Year's Eve.  We were both devastated.  I will admit that I cried.  We discussed our options.  We could postpone the ceremony or have the unofficial ceremony and then sign paperwork later.  Mostly our final decision was riding on my mom.  She was going through the most trouble to get to our wedding so we needed to get her input and go from there.

So, I called my mom at home to see how she was and do our weekly catch up.  No answer at her house.  So I tried to call her cell phone.  My younger sister answered.  She apparently had borrowed my mom's cell phone.  When I asked her where mom was she said "In the hospital."  Huh?  Why didn't anyone call and tell me?  My family is nearly a thousand miles away and no one thought to call and let me know?  So I hung up with her and called the hospital.  Luckily I worked there for over six years and still remember the phone number.

I got ahold of my mom's room number and was finally connected.  Good news, my mom sounded okay.  She had been admitted earlier that day for bilateral basilar pneumonia.  Great!  So I made sure she was okay and then told her I was going to blow a gasket at both of my sister's for not calling me.  Apparently my older sister didn't call because she didn't want to worry my and wanted to wait until after my mom got better to let me know.  We established that that is not a good plan.  I want to know what is going on with my family.  Period. 

So my mom sounded pretty good and the prognosis was good too.  She would be discharged from the hospital the following monday but when she would be released to go back to work was a big question.  She was worried about not being well enough to make it to the wedding.  She was also worried about finances seeing as how she was now unable to work with pneumonia.  I reassured her that she shouldn't worry about it.  But I didn't want to lay all the information about how we might need to reschedule anyway on her while she's in the hospital.  I just told her we would figure something out.

This was all just a little too much for me.  I had a little nervous breakdown.  I cried because something stupid was interferring with our wedding plans, I cried because my mom was sick and I couldn't be there to help her, I cried because I was frustrated with my younger, irresponsible sister, I cried because I was tired of worrying about my older sister and niece and nephew coming.  J held me while I cried my heart out.  Then I wiped my eyes and said "enough of that crap!"

The next morning J and I were out shopping when I called my mom to see how her night had gone.  She asked if I had talked to my older sister.  Not that morning.  My younger sister's boyfriend, "U" I will call him, broke into my mother's house, stole her car keys, then stole her car, then drove down the highway at 3 o'clock in the morning - drunk!, and totalled my mom's car.  Flipped it at least twice.  So my mom ended up in the hospital and had her car stolen and trashed all in the same day.  Fabulous!

Depite tons of evidence AND U picked up by the police walking away from the wreck, my younger sister doesn't think he did it.  HELLO!  She is still on his side as of today.  Dumbass.  Sorry but it's true.  She is another kind of idiot.  So he was arrested and spent about a week in jail.  The police released my mom's car only a couple of days ago.  She emailed me pictures.  The only reason he walked away was because he was drunk.  Any passengers would definitely have been killed.

After finding all this out J and I decided to definitely postpone the wedding.  I just had to tell my mom in a way that made sure she knew that it wasn't her fault.  So we all discussed it and came up with a workable plan.  We wouldn't get married on New Year's Eve.  So over the next few days I was worried, grumpy, stressed, and making myself physically sick over all of it.

Mom did get out of the hospital that Monday but was unable to go back to work until that Saturday.  She has gotten over the pneumonia and is doing great.  She is still driving a rental car and U has since been bailed out of jail but will be prosecuted.  Fully.

On Thursday morning I went to the website of the chapel we had booked.  It said closed.  Nothing else, just closed in big letters.  I hoped maybe the website was down but it looked weird.  So I called their direct number.  Out of service.  I called their 800 number.  Out of service.  Oh shit.  J did some research while he was at work and found that the State of Nevada had pulled the license in November.  They did not let us know.  And do you know why?  Because we paid them for half of our wedding package.  That money has gone bye bye. 

At this point we could only laugh.  What the ?  Is this a sign?  So we decided that we would still go to Vegas for a little R and R only staying two nights instead of the full four we had planned.  We prepared for Christmas and tried to focus on the positives.  On Saturday the 22nd I couldn't wait any longer to have some sort of an idea when we would finally be married.  So we discussed some more options.  Since we wouldn't be getting married on our two year anniversay we had no particular attachment to having the ceremony in Las Vegas.

Which means a whole new wedding to plan.  I started doing some research though I had promised I would wait until after the holidays and things calmed down.  I lied.  So I found 3 places I wanted to show J.  They were all bed and breakfasts in Colorado that had wedding packages perfect for small weddings.  I did have my eye on one in particular and luckily J agreed!  So we've found a new location.  We will probably be making another set of reservations this week sometime.  We also decided on the new date - the weekend of June 28th.  The date has no particular meaning we just wanted a time that would be warm and soon lol. 

This is the second wedding I will have planned in less than a year.  I'm starting to get very good at this.  We are having to redo everything except our rings.  Even our wedding guest gifts were all centered around Las Vegas and had the original date on everything.  What a bummer.  Although I love doing fun, creative things so I'm actually looking forward to that! 

J and I did go to Las Vegas.  His best man was still planning on meeting us there, flying in from Hawaii.  Except he couldn't get a flight!  So on top of everything else, J's best man would have missed the wedding lol.  Regardless, we had a great time and I'll post some pics later this week.  And that's for another post. 

I hope everyone had a wonderful New Year!