• fearing said on Dec 27, 2007....

  I'll be honest.  I'm not afraid of death but the dying part does cause me some concern.  I don't want to die slowly and horribly but who does?  My main concern is leaving my children.  Is that your concern Skeleton?  Leaving those you love behind or is it the actual death part? 
   
  I fear losing my children worse than I fear dying myself. 

• GracefullyGrowing said on Dec 27, 2007....

  I'm ready to die.  I am not afraid of death.  While I do not have a "death wish" per se, I am anxious to see what the other side is like.  To move into that realm and discover just what is right and just what is wrong about my beliefs concerning the spiritual realm.
   
  Pain and suffering, on the other hand, is a horse of a different color. THAT I am afraid of.  Those two things are an inherant part of death, most of the time.  Of course, they are an inherant part of life - now that I think about it further.  So what am I afraid of? 
   
  <ponder> 
   
  Yep - still there.  Majorly adverse to pain and suffering, of any type.
   
  ~Grace~

• GracefullyGrowing said on Dec 27, 2007....

  Fearing, we were posting at the same time, with the same concept.  Get OUT of my HEAD!  <giggle>
   
  ~Grace~

• fearing said on Dec 27, 2007....

  @ Grace - We must be sharing a brain today!  lol!

• Skeleton said on Dec 27, 2007....

  Fearing, I wish I could say it was the actual "dying" part, but its not; although I would not like to suffer too much.  No, for me it is "death" I am afraid that if I died today that I would be found wanting.  And of course I do not want to leave my child esp.
   
  GracefullyGrowing, it must be nice to have that confidence of not being afraid to die, I use to have that confidence as well, but it went AWOL at some point.  It is interesting that you are actually excited about what lies beyond, that you aren't afraid at all that it might not be what you expected.

• fearing said on Dec 27, 2007....

  Skeleton, You asked for honesty so I'm going to give it to you.  You are a Christian and I'm certain you believe the Word of God.  So, if you believe and one moment here - the next face to face with Him, why are you afraid?  I can only assume, and forgive me if I'm wrong, but you said you were afraid that you would be found wanting that you mean you will be found not good enough.  Is that correct?  Your Salvation is not conditional on your actions.  The Price paid for you is surely enough.  If I am completely off-base, I apologize.  I hope this helps.  As for me, the most comforting thought I can think of is that God Himself will wipe away all my tears.  How awesome is that going to be?
  

• skald said on Dec 27, 2007....

  I have the feeling that you are young and if god promises you will live for many years to come. I know now that there is life after death. I had a terrible experience last autumn but that experience has also done me good. Since I have seen a ghost I know that there is also life somewhere else only the unfortunate being I saw did not know the way. That has also convinced me that there is god and good force here too.
  
  How this works I don't know. i have heard many theories. But it is sure we shall all die in the end and since this has happened to all this must be right and it can not be the end. Early Christians believed in the reincarnation. There were church  men  , priests and so who saw it fit to take this out of the Bible on a Church convention in the  year 500. This was done to control the ignorant people then.
  
  As a very small child I said to my self. It can not be that I was nothing and that I will be nothing again.
  I say lets live while we are alive. Let god take care of the other and don't be frightened.
  

• skald said on Dec 27, 2007....

  I saw only this after I wrote . that you were afraid found wanting. I don't know you well Skeleton but I think you are the kind of a person that will not be found wanting. I think you are a kind, sensitive person. 

• quietone said on Dec 27, 2007....

  If you are christian

• quietone said on Dec 27, 2007....

  sorry.....eesh SC..it cuts me off alot lately. 

  Anyway...no I am not afraid to die.  But like the rest, I want it to be quick and as painless  as possible.  God has a plan for us all skeleton, he is a forgiving loving God...I don't know what you ment by "wanting". 

• Kilgore_V_Trout said on Dec 27, 2007....

  
  I know that I'm ready to die because I have done a few things where death was one of the real possible outcomes and I decided that was okay. I decided that even if I died doing it, I could live with that. (!) ... At least for the few seconds of realization before it happened. So I guess that means that I was satisfied with what I've had and not apprehensive about anything to come.

• LloydTheBarber said on Dec 27, 2007....

  Here is hoping there is "another side".......If not, i guess we will never know anyway...   

• pickersplock said on Dec 27, 2007....

  Just try and imagine living forever, then you'll really get scared!

• mobil said on Dec 27, 2007....

  Fear of dying has nothing to do with faith, loving God or being a good Christian. When you think about it, it is inherent in us to avoid change. Those things inherent to humans are God given.

  Who wants to leave for heaven now? Please get on the bus if you do. I have seen allot of people die Skeleton. If not left for long to think, the person generally goes easy into the light.

  Wherever there has been time, or lots of time to ponder ones own death. USUALLY, there is anxiety. I say usually, because we are each different in our makeup and I have seen a few die with little anxiety or just some at the very end. Of course much of it has to do with the physical and mental condition at that time too.

   

  My own father (a good Christen) and a very strong man. He had terrible anxiety attacks after being told of his demise. He had eleven months notice of his death. After he had thought about it, after he came to terms with it. He was ready, you see, he had to accept and he did, even though he was a young man.

   

  Don’t beat yourself up over this, I too have a fear of not living. It’s the same as a fear of dying you see. Not living, not being there for those who depend on us. Not being there for the next thing to come along. Is it wrong to want to live? To want to see the sunrise tomorrow?

  I don’t think so Skeleton and it has nothing to do with our faith, our love or confidence in the Almighty. We are fragile creatures and when the going gets tough, often then we find our strength within. There is no shame in being afraid Skeleton.

• uniquely-ironic said on Dec 27, 2007....

  I used to be afraid of pain and dying.  Now it's just the pain. :)
   
  I have come to believe that life is a gift that you enjoy until it's time to go onto the next thing.  Death.  It's the natural progression of life.  I don't want to die, but if I live to a ripe old age of something over 80 I don't think I'll mind dying as much.
   
  As for those we leave behind, I think that it's good to consider that daily and live accordingly.  If you live each day as if tomorrow doesn't exist, then you're less likely to behave bady towards your loved ones.
   
  I'm by no stretch perfect.  I do believe God (Allah, Budda, or whoever) will understand if I do the best I can and that will be "enough".

• the_infernal_optimist said on Dec 27, 2007....

  I am not afraid of dying, but I am so not ready to go.
  
  I do fear leaving my children motherless prior to their adulthood, and I fear the financial burden on my family if I had a drawn-out illness. Death itself? I can't control it, so I refuse to worry about it. Sure I hope it doesn't come for another 80 years if I can swing it (I want to be one of the world's oldest people, if I get to keep my mind and reasonable health for that age!), but other than the timing it's not something I worry about.
  
  ~Infernal
  

• wakingharmony said on Dec 27, 2007....

  I  cant stand the thought of suffication  not being able to breath....Fire....  trying to hold your breath longer than you can while under water ....Don't know but I have to believe that There is a God and In that, I think when we are going to die "Our Time" I believe that our Souls leave so there is no discomfort.... Like that dream I had when I crashed  in a ferris wheel there was no pain..it was amazing!
  

• dyingman said on Dec 27, 2007....

  I'm afraid to die because of the kids too.
  The wife'd be something of a mess too, I expect.
  Still, I've faced potential dangers in order to "do what's right"
  It's worse to live in shame or under someone else's tyranny.

• Clair_de_Lune said on Dec 27, 2007....

  No brother..
  I am not keen or interested in dying and, yes, I also deal with the fear of death..
  My Mom, me, and my loved ones have skipped many dances with death..
  And now my Dad is in the hospital ..as we speak..doing the dance, with God's help, again...
  It is not unfaithful to face our fears and be honest about them..
  I think there is more to be feared in lying to ourselves and not being willing to face our fears and weaknesses honestly..
  Fearing death is a normal human inclination..
  Generally, most human beings do not want to de..
  I feel God gives us preparation before that time is to come..
  Death does but hide, not divide..
  Though art on Christ's other side..
  When we are keeping close to God this helps with all immeasureably..
  Fear not!
  clair

• Mr_Box said on Dec 27, 2007....

  I'm afraid of dying painfully and horribly. I want to go fast. But what scares me the most is the fact that I'm not ready yet.

  I know there's something more out there and I believe our souls never really die. But I'm not done here yet. People need me. And I still have much to learn.

  So what I really fear is not completing things I feel like I need to complete. And leaving people who need me too much. So yeah, it scares me.

• lfbno7 said on Dec 27, 2007....

  I'd love to die right now. That would be so cool. Then I could see what Heaven is like, and be done with all the responsibilities here. The only thing I'm afraid of is suffering.

• moonriver said on Dec 27, 2007....

  although i'd like to extend my earthly stay for as long as possible, i'm ready to die anytime. and i'm not scared of it. we all have to die, and the sooner we get ready and accept it, the more productive our lives would be.
  
  i've replayed in my mind for countless times the several probably scenarios of how i might die... assassination, crash, snake bite, drowning, contracting a barely known tropical disease... and old age of course.
  
  for those who have a good idea of what i've been through in the past 9 years, they know i'm not kidding when i say these things. my loved ones will surely grieve, of course, but they'll cope. sudden death hasn't been a stranger to us in these parts.
  
  

• Eilan said on Dec 28, 2007....

  Dying would be terribly inconvenient for me right now.  It would split up my family, as my ex would get custody of my two oldest daughters.  He's not a bad father, but my girls are better off where they are.
  
  I'm not religious, so I don't believe that I'll be going to heaven or hell.  If there is a hell, however, I'm sure I'll be going there, but I'll likely find myself in the company of people who didn't expect to find themselves in hell (think Fred Phelps or any televangelist, really), so things should be interesting.
  

• Tinaflying said on Dec 28, 2007....

  Sometimes I also have the same feeling for many things  around us

  I experience the same like you . May be it's worse

  If I did not the chapter on the site mybikermatch,I would leave the earth

  ah   at this time ,I know how fool I have done for me

  May be it's the note save my life

  How lucky I am!!!!!!!!

• phoeby said on Dec 28, 2007....

  nope, i'm not afraid of dying. In fact i probably wish i was a little more fearful of it, then i'd slow down and not drive like a maniac!
  
  
  I actually live my life as if i'll never die. I love some scary rides, i love doing sports or activities that challenge me a bit. Except firewalking, i don't think i will do that one, bec i'm frightened of fire and being burnt. I love the idea of jumping out of a plane although i haven't done it yet. I love that feeling of whatever it is that you feel when you are about to do something nerveracking.  i love that feeling of being on the edge a bit. It all started when i was about 11 and i rode a horse that i didn't know and it took off and galloped for miles and miles and i just couldn't stop it, it was too headstrong. I ended up just going with it and eventually it felt incredible just trusting that if i held on, i'd be ok. And i was. I'll never forget the wind going through my hair and face and how exhilarating it was.
  
  
  it gives me this rush or sense of freedom, anticipation and ultimately trust. 
  
  
  love phoeby 

• jdworldly said on Dec 28, 2007....

  PHOEBY--you are a truly amazing well adjusted soul(caster)...
  do you still go galloping??? Would love to watch you galloping along the beach in Bora Bora--let me know when and I'll be there...

• destinydiva said on Dec 28, 2007....

  I have no fear of dying, I guess it has a lot to do with what you believe happens when you die? see I believe I get to come back and start over..clean slate...so if I am totally honest.. I am looking forward to it! maybe how I feel about dying is dependant on my mood? :-) xx

• dejableu said on Dec 28, 2007....

  I'm more afraid of what might kill me than the dying itself. I don't want to suffer for years. My mom suffered for 3 years before finally dying. I was happy for her when she went because she had always been an outstanding Christian. I'm afraid for my non-believing friends to die. THAT scares me.

• Skeleton said on Dec 29, 2007....

  Thank you everyone for all your comments, sorry that I have not been back here in order to reply to each one.  I have been a bit busy.  But I do appreciate your input especially for the encouragement I have received.
   
  Mr Box, it seems you and I are the ones who struggle with this.
   
  It is interesting that I am finding myself again in the minority.  When I wrote I about lying it was the same thing.
   
  Perhaps I am just weird.
   
  Perhaps I just take life / death too seriously, but I do not know how to change that.  For me its about FOREVER and I dont want to miss it. 
   
  Thanks from Skeleton

• josay1103 said on Dec 29, 2007....

  I am afraid to die. The thought of my children losing me at their very young age makes me feel weak. If I die now, I can't imagine myself on the other side to see my children grow up without me. I just lift everything to God almighty.

• Clair_de_Lune said on Dec 29, 2007....

  Skel, you're not weird..\\
  
  Did you see my post here?:^)
  
  Welp, Soulcast vs the world..
  hardly a majority, with respect to posters here, friend..
  
  ie maybe not a consensus
  
  anyway, no, you're not alone..
  
  just frank abut these things..
  
  
  

• one_wired_kitty said on Dec 30, 2007....

  I'm not really afraid to die ... it's not nowing how I'm going to die that has me worried.

• Clair_de_Lune said on Jan 02, 2008....

  But, you know, there are other times I really am not afraid to die..
  And I think that's because of my faith..
  Mostly, I think it's because I am not ready to..
  
  Most people aren't..
  

• -ocean- said on Jan 02, 2008....

  i'm not afraid of death, just the dying process, I want it to be quick, and not slow or drawn out and I would hate to drown, it is the worst death I could imagine.

• jdworldly said on Jan 02, 2008....

  If  you believe in the possiblity of second chances, parallel universes, reincarnation etc there is hope beyond the grave. Otherwise we are headed for a long dirt nap.

• pookiedookie said on Jan 02, 2008....

  I ain't afraid to die, I just don't want to right now.

• husbandhater said on Jan 03, 2008....

  I don't feel ready to die but who ever does Skelly? I think that I'd like to know though. I don't want  a sudden death I want to know so that I could make peace with it,myself and my family. I want to be very old in my own bed surrounded by those I love. I think that would help me face judgement better. I am on fire for God too, I am the lamb that seperates from the flock but I always come back. My husband isn't very church going and I was until all the jobs stuff. I know GOD has provided b/c I have asked. My trials are big too Skel but he has held my hand and even carried me through in times I haven't felt his hands and presence(The foot prints prayer). I try to keep the faith and hope that he is there.
   
  I saw Will Smith's new movie: I am Legend and it has faith elements in it. There is this young woman who saves him towards the end and he asks how and she says God told me certain things. The world is alot quieter now you can hear him speaking more clearly you just have to listen! I think this applies.

• pookiedookie said on Jan 05, 2008....

  I don't know if I'm afraid of dying or not.  I just haven't sat down and thought of it.  I think I'm more afraid of not fulling my purpose.  I don't want my life to be wasted here.  I want to do all I can to serve God and my fellow man.

  Duke

• lfbno7 said on Jan 05, 2008....

  Could you come by next time it snows in Jersey and help me with the shoveling? I'm your fellow man.

• Carefully said on Jan 06, 2008....

  Sometimes I think it isn't death I fear, it's the process.

• davidstar said on Jan 08, 2008....

  I don't know if I am afraid or not, I just don't want to.

• davidstar said on Jan 16, 2008....

  skeleton--are you still around here?  I haven't seen you in about a week?

• pookiedookie said on Jan 17, 2008....

  lfbno7--Is it snowing there right now?  It sure is here!

• Skeleton said on Jan 21, 2008....

  Pookiedookie and Davidstar, I apologise for my long absences.  I do read a lot of blogs but do not comment much and I apologise.  Thank you for your comments.  I think I am on the road to recovery.  I went to church yesterday and went forward for prayer.  I want to become effective for the Lord again.  I went down to the front with no emotion, but as soon as I got there I cried and it was a true sign for me because I have not felt emotional about things Spiritual for a very long time.  I feel like things may be moving forward, or so I hope. Thank you again.

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