Ok, this came off a post I was reading a few seconds ago which kinda caught my attention. This guy was clearing his kid's Hard disk out and found some porn on it, the kid turned bright red and the father just sailed through, no fuss. In essance, I kind of agree with the father. After all, how many people (both men and women) never saw some porn even out of curiosity. To be honest I don't see any sence in seeing two people have sex in a tv/computer screen, but you do get ideas for "the real thing". Now I work in a toy shop and have been there for the last 10 years, and the changes i've seen in kids is amazing, children are growing up so fast. Now apart from that, I also see parents be so hard on their kids, I mean come on give them a break, all these kids know is school, private tuition and studies, so their mum can brag about their results. Bloody hell all they buy their kids are "educational" toys. where the hell is the fun in these kid's life's? Here are some points I'd like to make: 1st of all I'm not a father (to my girl friend's dismay) so: Children learn something from everything, let them have fun and get their mind off their studies. Don't be too strict, let them know that there is a limit to everyting and give them hell when they pass that limit. Let them break their toys, I myself used to pull all my toys apart because I wanted to see what's inside, partly thanks to that I've been capable of fixing anything. One last thing is sex. when a boy or girl becomes a teenager, trouble starts, and with the way the fashion is these days, you don't blame a 14 year old boy flipping the second he sees the girl from school or any girl as a matter of fact in most of anything she will ever wear. Now one thing I have noticed from experiance is that a vast majority of guys I know who have become fathers prematurly were the quiet, reserved even nerdy guys, what you see in the movies of the nerdy guy blowing his top prematurly in the movies seems to be true. But that could be a coincidance. Anyway my opinion is as follows (from the view of a guy who has not yet experianced fatherhood firsthand, but has a considerable amount of contact with kids). 1. Don't make your kids study themselves to death, It hurts 2. Set reasonable limits, home is home, not prison. set a reasonable curfew, if their late, then it's time for war!! 3. If your son (or maybe daughter) has porn on their pc....... it's perfectly normal, I'm not saying it's good, just remember what you used to do at their age! 4. let your kid express and develop their personality, being an extrovert really helps make your life be easier. 5. keep an eye on you children's friends, you will learn what your kids are like behind your back from their friends, make sure that the mix with children within their age bracket. 6. speak to your kids openly, sex is no taboo, don't make it look like one, remember anything you are not allowed to do is more exiting. Hope I did not offend anyone as no offence is meant, what I wrote above is what I feel. I myself am not a father (I will say yet again) but I am around children for most of my day as I work in a toy shop and encounter children, parents, and young parents all day long, and being observant, you do notice patterns. IMHO nothing is nicer than watching a 5 year old kid have the toy of his dreams in a bag, giving his dad a hug as thanks for the toy he just bought for him. Comments and views on this are highly appreciated.