• Twylarants said on Dec 22, 2007....

  Flyn, Flyn, Flyn......you are neither boring nor uninteresting!  Just ask the people here...are we not the very essence of refined taste and good judgment?
  
  Well, that sounded much more hoity-toity in my head than it looks in writing but you know what I mean.
  
  Maybe he's just a jerk.  Sorry if that upsets you Sweetie.  Maybe he's tired?
  Maybe he's just very comfortable in the relationship.  You know how men can be.
  Say something to him...ya got nothin' to lose, right?
  
  
  

• Fallyn said on Dec 22, 2007....

  that is all true. *grin* and i am ANYTHING but uninteresting. :P

• Fallyn said on Dec 22, 2007....

  i'm talking to him now and he says, well, i should have come up yesterday through today...and it's like.....well, then you shouldn't have forgotten. HMMMPH.
  
  

• wombat said on Dec 22, 2007....

  The ups and downs never stop in any relationship.  I think maybe people have to learn to take the good with the bad, or maybe be like me and mine--just get too old to care about the bad, and just hang on with a memory of the good as a bouy in the sea of life...ha...  Hope you guys get together and talk alot and have fun!
   
  And Merry Christmas!
   
  Love, wombie

• Fallyn said on Dec 22, 2007....

  wombi.....my god, you know? that helps. thankyou. *HUGS*

• crybabylu said on Dec 23, 2007....

  I'm sorry you didn't get to spend time with you guy.  I can only imagine your disappointment. Hope it's all better now.((hug))

• travelr712 said on Dec 23, 2007....

  you are not boring fallyn! now get that thought right outa your head! it's very hard to have a long distance relationship. and you're just beginning to put this one back together. he may not be in the same place you are yet. he may not have even decided where he wants this to go. maybe you're just letting your expectations and desires run away with you?

• D6fer said on Dec 23, 2007....

  I am not sure how to respond....not enough info about your relationship in general.
  How long have you been dating?
  Are you intimate?
  
  I think that many women today let the sex come before love (yes I said women) and it creates a problem for them down the road.
  
  His reaction was a red flag for me and made me think of this.....please don't take it the wrong way....I don't want to offend.
  

• crybabylu said on Dec 23, 2007....

  the thoughr occurred to me (not jumping to wrong conclusions here), that there is another change that is going to occur in your life real soon.  Kids. No, I'm not making a big thing of that, since he has been involved with you back when you had the kids.

  But, maybe he wasn't sure if personal plans had changed because he might have thought you'd be busy prepaing for their return, or whatever.  I think he just didn't take the time to explain his entire line of thought, and grabbed for the first word that popped into his mind.

• quietone said on Dec 23, 2007....

  I am kinda barging in here..but I would say to myself...don't sweat the small stuff.  If there is no "commitment" then let it go.  This is only one day in a life of many.

• skald said on Dec 23, 2007....

  I would feel very disappointed too. I would try to get this in the clear. No you are not uninteresting or boring. The thing lies with him somewhere. Maybe he was afraid to tell you and said he forgot.
  
  Things like this are really heartbreaking. They kind of make our self esteem smaller.
  But as I said it is the other person not us. I have learned that by now.
  

• sheltercrow said on Dec 23, 2007....

  
  You're getting hysterical again...

• Fallyn said on Dec 23, 2007....

  D6. we've been dating for a year.
  yes, we are intimate......and much too soon.
  it's like...once you've gone there, you can't really go back, you know?
  
  we ended up in bed together the first time we met.
  at the time it didn't seem like a mistake. but now...looking back......there were a lot of steps inbetween that got skipped.
  
  but that is what it is now.....so...*shrug*
  this is only the second relationship i've had....and the last one was extremely psychologically abusive.....so i'm lacking a lot of experience
  

• Fallyn said on Dec 23, 2007....

  dee, he plain and simple forgot. he gets distracted easily. and he's not as obsessive as me. *grin* i tend to obsess over people.
  
  shelter, thankyou for the heads up.
  

• crybabylu said on Dec 23, 2007....

  Okay, I 'm glad it was a simple thing.   Did you know, by the way, that Sunshine threw you a party?

• Fallyn said on Dec 23, 2007....

  dee, no i didn't! how did i miss that!!!
  
  

• lfbno7 said on Dec 23, 2007....

  That's so funny that Shelter Crow tells you that you are getting hysterical again, and you agree. That's cute. Does the guy hate to make long drives? Maybe you spoiled him by always driving out to him. It's so much easier to sit home and wait for someone to show up than to get in your car and drive for three hours. Does he get sleepy on long drives?

• Fallyn said on Dec 24, 2007....

  he's on a different work schedule now than he used to be.

• D6fer said on Dec 24, 2007....

  No....you can't turn back once you've gone down that road....but you can stop if you need to....make sure that he is in the relationship for the right reasons...know what I mean?

• sheltercrow said on Dec 24, 2007....

  

  You know lfbno7 for a city p**** you sure have the stink of the hick about you.

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