Allowing for whatever position has taken your fancy at the time do you look into your partner's eyes while you are making love or is your gaze elsewhere?
I was watching Ally McBeal and this was a subject of discussion and it struck me that I don't know but I would hope that I would. Or rather that the person I would be sharing that exquisite moment with would be someone whose gaze I would want to lose myself in.
But it has been so long that I just don't know and I think that that is a question I ought to be able to answer...
Alyss posted on Dec 20, 2007
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anonymous said on Dec 20, 2007....
depends on the partner and the mood -
EvilTwin said on Dec 20, 2007....
I would be looking into your eyes, lost in their beautiful depths...
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the_infernal_optimist said on Dec 20, 2007....
Sometimes I/we do...not usually for very long.
~Infernal
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sweetsoul said on Dec 20, 2007....
Not always. Depends what position we're in and what we're doing though definitely some positions are chosen partially for the eye contact possibilities. -
lioneljay said on Dec 20, 2007....
I'm with SS on this one as it's mostly dependent on position and intent. Sometimes I get so intent on what I'm doing that I close my eyes to concentrate. Other times I'm paying attention to other parts of her even though I could be looking in her eyes if I chose.
My favorite time to look in her eyes, though, is when she's spent and exhausted. Hair is damp and falling across her brow and her eyes are filled with happiness and contentment.
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Lucytorial said on Dec 20, 2007....
Lioneljay you said it all...... -
hidufel said on Dec 20, 2007....
Straight in the eyes, unable to look away, i say. -
nursecutie said on Dec 20, 2007....
There is alot of eye contact usually......but not constantly. Sometimes our eyes are closed. But I think it makes it much more intimate if you are looking in the other persons eyes. Especially at the big moment! :)
xxoo natalie xxoo
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lioneljay said on Dec 20, 2007....
Thank you, Lucy T. Of course, that was the G-rated version. But you know that JBWF look, right? -
Lucytorial said on Dec 20, 2007....
oh yeh... its unmistakeable. *-} -
absolutely said on Dec 20, 2007....
I've never been made love to. It was all just sex. Love and sex don't intersect in my world. -
ALIENated said on Dec 20, 2007....
Yes, I do. -
lfbno7 said on Dec 21, 2007....
Well it depends on the position you're in. -
Fallyn said on Dec 21, 2007....
right in the eyes. *swooning*.....or eyes closed. either way. -
girlfriday said on Dec 21, 2007....
all our sexual lives till last year in may my husband and i always kept our eyes closed....then this friend couple of ours told us that they always kept their eyes open. and also that we should try it. we did and O MY GOD!!was it an "eye-opener"!!! it is so different when u r looking into the eyes of the person u love when u r making love to him!!!its like a slice of heaven being shown to u... i just loved it. but to just keep the novelty of it alive we dont do it on a regular basis....only on special occasions..when we are feeling overtly romantic .....the feeling of love mixed with lust coming from a husband of nine years is like nirvana for the soul!!!!
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mypassions said on Dec 21, 2007....
Its just wonderful..and brave-heart..to look into her eyes..throughout the whole episode..but once yu start..gazing...and go deep..and deep..of course through her eyes...you will always...feel like..yu are looking..at her..and lost in her..even if..your position and mood changes..in that..period..i dont know what's d % of ppl..who do this..but its certainly..difficult..and requires..too much involvement..and passion..
comments by Lioneljay and nursecutie..are praiseworthy..:-)
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mypassions said on Dec 21, 2007....
Grt..to hear the true..experience..from Girlfriday..its really amazing..to share..such an experience..here..and that too in such a philosophical..way...
thnx..from me..and all..soulcast..members...it will help..many others..reading this make their romantic life..more enjoyable..and relaxing..:-)
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Pontius_Pilate said on Dec 21, 2007....
I would say it varies a bit for me.
First off, doggie, ahm, if you're looking into her eyes, there's a problem! o_O LoL
Seriously though, it does vary quite a bit. Sometimes yes, sometimes no. As said previously, depends on the mood, and honestly, the person. If there is something 'there' then yea quite a bit. Half the enjoyment for me is seeing them enjoying it, which you see alot better in their eyes.
:shrug:
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carmachu said on Dec 21, 2007....
Depends. Yes and no. Dpends on what we're doing....I'm more likely to whispher soft words in her ear.....
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Racerboy said on Dec 21, 2007....
Making love? what's that? -
GracefullyGrowing said on Dec 21, 2007....
I find that, hard as I try, I can't kiss with my eyes open. Eyes open and kissing just doesn't seem right to me. But, when kissing is not happening, eyes open is wonderful. I love eye contact during love making. It's WAY intense!!~Grace~ -
wild-ting said on Dec 21, 2007....
Depends on the partner and the position.
With current lover-- missionary, scissor or any position where we can see each other's eyes...we look deeply into each other's eyes, watch each other's expressions...it's intense, very nice. Very hot.
He watches me a lot almost like he's studying me. With most other lovers, I used to really just get lost in the sensation, I sort of concentrated on the physical feeling and touch and let my mind and body meld... like I do for yoga. I'm very in touch with my body.
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Racerboy said on Dec 21, 2007....
You people are making me so Jealous! Even Rosey Palm and her 5 sisters won't look me in the eye! -
VioletEyes said on Dec 21, 2007....
Ok, wow. Personally I don't look in people's eyes, or allow them to look in mine. To me that is somewhat weird........... maybe too personal or something? I do have my eyes open, but look at their body only........
So am I weird because I won't look people in the eyes? I didn't realize people did that, lol........
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Alyss said on Dec 21, 2007....
Maybe it is because it is too personal and intimate and wasn't a connection that was there for him & I but I don't think that eye gazing was part of the experience with my DH.
ET one day, if the fates are kind, we will find out. Together.
Infernal, you said 'sometimes but not for long' and I'm wondering is that a conscious choice or not?
SS & LJ, situations, positions & intent all play a part of course. ;-) LJ is there a special look at that time that is different from others?
Thank you Lucy.
hidufel, a direct gaze into her soul? I wonder how it would be to be the recipient of such a gaze?
nursecutie, that sounds perfect. ;-)
More after I've fed the kidlets.
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LloydTheBarber said on Dec 21, 2007....
Its usually hard to look in her eyes..........More often than not I am in back of her.. -
redgoose said on Dec 21, 2007....
In the movies they always close their eyes but this seems kind of silly. Nothing is more beautiful than the eyes of a woman when she is in the throes of passion. A woman's eyes also act like the shutter on a camera when she is feeling good in all the right places. When those eyes glaze over, ever so briefly, it's a dead giveaway that she is happy. But I dunno anymore. I took on the buden of giving up sex a few years ago. (after the last time I got cheated on, so what do i know about it?) I don't know anything. I'm not even a novice anymore. Take it from the ones who know. Now I just screw around with the stock market and read Jane Austin and the Bronte's. Have a great holiday. -
strange~~~visitor said on Dec 21, 2007....
it is a mystery
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crybabylu said on Dec 21, 2007....
I really don't have an answer for you.....been so long now, I can't remember......dee -
elaineandcotteralladams said on Dec 21, 2007....
It's necessary to negotiate verbally and offensive to look someone in the eyes, so I made a checklist and chart instead. -
Wish_Upon_A_Star said on Dec 21, 2007....
My boyfriend and i don't always stare into each others eyes, except in girl on top or missionary type positions. There is something about gazing into your lovers eyes that is extremely intimate. In fact this is the only guy i've ever done that sort of thing with or held during sex... it's pretty awesome though -
VioletEyes said on Dec 22, 2007....
Hmmm...... ckecked into this a little more, I have never looked into someones eyes during sex, but when I actually looked to see where his eyes were, he was looking me in the eyes....... -
Featherpet said on Dec 25, 2007....
I look at the rest of the person at times, but for some reason during sex is the only time I can't look someone in the eyes. It really kills it for me. Of course I"m the type for cuffs and blindfolds... hehe
But seriously, I will look them in the eye if they ask but it really ruins things for me, almost hurts, and I agree with others; for me the only time to look them in the eye is after, when everyone is content and tired and blissed out.
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CelticStorm said on Jan 05, 2008....
to quote Linda Goodman, "sex without love leaves the body cold, love without sex leaves the soul empty"
stare into your lovers eyes if you can, the connection is something else.. ive had my share of love less pleasure..
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redgoose said on Jan 06, 2008....
Has anyone of you ever gone into a shop and the shopkeeper as the hottest item you had ever met and you send your fiance off on an errand and actually can't keep your hands off each other, she closes the shop and the camper is right outside in the parking lot? But then her ape-like husband almost spots us getting into the truck and we are both totally freaked.... and never saw one another again but that never happened before or since. I reminisce about that since it comes up so often in dreams; I must have fought that ape-like man 10 times, even lashing out and hitting the bedpost or the wifey.... My sister-in-law acted like she hated me over that for years, then I found out sheand my brother got drunk and brought some seaman home and you know the rest of the story. It sure shut her up . Anything can happen in the bizarre world of finding a mate. I watched a bird buiding a nest with her mate but when he was gone once she hooked up with the fun stranger waiting by the fence..., never letting on to the fool building her nest.... Trains are hot beds of intrigue. It must be the motion of the train swaying back and forth, being away from home, adventure and all that. -
in_bocca_al_lupo3 said on Jan 10, 2008....
If I'm dating them, or have feelings for them as more then a friend/one night stand, absolutely. If it's just a one time thing, then no.
Eye contact itself to me is very intimate, and important if you've got feelings for who you're having sex with.
<3 Ally McBeal, I miss that show.
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Imalovernotawriter said on Jan 11, 2008....
Wow! What a response to a very stimulating post... I love to watch her as she comes, and I always do so. I think there is a connection between minds - possibly not made anywhere else in Nature - when simultaneous orgasm occurs between two lovers and both partners maintain eye contact: all barriers are gone; minds meld; truth is all there is; relationships are strengthened beyond belief.
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