• GracefullyGrowing said on Dec 09, 2007....

  It's a combination of love and wisdom that I want my children to learn young and pursue as adults.  With the ability to love, and the ability to act in wisdom, there is nothing they can't conquer - whether it be of the heart, the mind, the body, or the soul.
   
  ~Grace~

• VioletEyes said on Dec 09, 2007....

  Very nicely written! That is definitely true. I suppose it's hard to be compassionate when you don't know love, lol. Maybe I should have rethought my choice! lol. But at least in real life there is still plenty of time........

• SeanRenaud said on Dec 09, 2007....

  Judge, early, often, well and repeatedly when the situation calls for it.  Everything else follows that.

• VioletEyes said on Dec 09, 2007....

  So you mean to kind of size up the situation then? To be aware? Or did I miss your point?

• SeanRenaud said on Dec 09, 2007....

  I mean judge.  Decide if a person, or a situation is good or bad for you and understand why. 

• VioletEyes said on Dec 09, 2007....

  I agree with about judging if you are in a good situation or a bad one, or if people are good or bad for you. But I think that judging too quickly can be a bad quality rather than a good one. It's a fine line........

  Example:

  I've never spoke to you before, and so I looked at a post of yours, and if I had of judged you on that one post......... I probably would block you. But I realize that even though I don't agree with your opinion on that particular post, that is just one fragment of what you write about.........

• SeanRenaud said on Dec 09, 2007....

  Blocking would be an extreme stance to take.  I mean that's kind of like saying, you saw a pretty girl and so you proposed to her.  that is also why I said repeatedly because somethings need to be evaluated from more than one angle and at more than one time.  When new information becomes available you can make new judgements then as well. 

• VioletEyes said on Dec 09, 2007....

  I agree it would be an extreme case, lol. But it was kinda an extreme post as well, lol. Yes, I didn't see the repeatedly that way, it makes more sense now. The ability to constantly be re-evaluating the world around you would be a good one.

• secretlife said on Dec 09, 2007....

  i agree with you that compassion, although difficult to teach, is one of the most important things we can model for our children.  i think there are little lessons on the way to compassion....selflessness, love, open mindedness and purity of heart.

• travelr712 said on Dec 09, 2007....

  i think what i try to teach my son most is kinda summed up in my blog of today, how to make good choices, and how choices always have concequences. i tell him that he can do whatever he wants, and give him the options and the effects of each of those options, and then let him make up his own mind. like today, we were at the grocery store, and he was pulling at the belt of my coat. i let him do it a couple times for fun, and then i told him to stop. the third time i told him to stop, i told him that if he did it again, i'd take his nose. it was a joke, sure, but i was letting him know that there would be reprocussions for repeat behavior. of course, he did it again, so i reached around and gave him a swat on the behind. that little suprised look said it all. and so i told him that i had said several times to stop, and that he could pull it again, and if he pulled it again, i would swat him on the behind again. i told him i was willing to trade pulls for swats, as long as he wanted to keep it up. he chose to stop pulling on my belt.

• Suddenrain said on Dec 09, 2007....

  Do unto others as you would have done to you. That is one my father preached to me and I have lived by that. I have always centered my children around that saying. It's saved me from doing some mean things at different times. Although as a teen I had to get rid of some mean on other kids in school. Eventually, it sunk in. I do regret how mean I was to some kids in school and wish I could take it back, cause what goes around, eventually comes back around to bite you in the ass.

• essocharis said on Dec 10, 2007....

  kindness.

• Me-Myself&I said on Dec 10, 2007....

  plain and simply....to LOVE. all else will follow. How do you do that....understanding we all fall short..... 

  Love is to do "no harm" to anyone or thing.  thank you for a nice post.

  *smile*  see ya

• uniquely-ironic said on Dec 10, 2007....

  I want my children to learn to work hard, play hard and love what they have, not what they want.  All other things become possible if you live this way.

• Taffy000 said on Dec 10, 2007....

  I'd want to teach my child the value of education.  I'm a bit torn on the issue.  If a child or person has a specific job they'd like to have and it requires a 4 year degree then it's wonderful to go to school & get that degree.  If a child has a wandering spirit and likes to dabble in this or that then showing the child the value of a degree is a bit harder.  I can name all sorts of people who don't have degrees "Bill Gates, Bill Cosby" but these men had something else that let them succeed.  I don't think that every person in the United States needs a 4 year degree but that degree may let you go through doors that not having the degree will hinder you from. 

  With my daughters I hope I could teach them the value of being virtuous.  Being an attractive woman is a wonderful gift.  I hope they don't squander it on men who don't deserve them. 

• quietone said on Dec 10, 2007....

  To learn to love yourself just the way you are...to respect yourself first and others..

• anonymous said on Dec 13, 2007....

  It's a combination of love and wisdom that I want my children to learn young and pursue as adults.  With the ability to love, and the ability to act in wisdom, there is nothing they can't conquer - whether it be of the heart, the mind, the body, or the soul

• anonymous said on Dec 13, 2007....

  It's a combination of love and wisdom that I want my children to learn young and pursue as adults.  With the ability to love, and the ability to act in wisdom, there is nothing they can't conquer - whether it be of the heart, the mind, the body, or the soul

• VioletEyes said on Dec 14, 2007....

  Wow! I'm gone a couple of days, and look at tall the responses! Thanks!

  Secretlife - I agree with you. There are many little lessons on the way towards learning any thing as complicated. But I think you used a very key word "model". I think a lot of what a children learn is what they see us do...

  Trav - always the sense of humor in everything. It's great that you are able to do that. It's sad to think, but you're right, eventually we have to let our children go, and let them make their own choices, and take the consequences. A very good lesson...

  Suddenrain - That is a very good saying, one that I have tried to live with as well. I'm not a religious person, but I do believe like you said that do unto others as you would like done to yourself...... very good lesson

  essocharis - kindness is very good too. I like that.

  Me-Myself&I - Love. Very important. Would be hard to teach, because really I can't even explain love, but maybe through modelling. Definitely very important.

  uniquelyironic - being happy with what you have, not having what you want, while still wporking hard. Very nice.

  taffy - education is very important, but i see what you are saying. That path of the 4 year diploma isn't for everyone. And success comes in many forms....

  anon - yes, that's what growing gracefully wrote, I take it you agree?

• travelr712 said on Dec 14, 2007....

  well thank you vi. i just wish it worked better with women over 18 :-)

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