• travelr712 said on Dec 09, 2007....

  Hmm, how to handle the frustration of not 'getting it now'. How to learn patience. Well, actually, you're learning it now. You're not getting what you want, you're having to wait for it. Patience is just the act of waiting without the frustration and anxiety. One thing that might help is to set yourself milestones, and then check them often. You have a goal, say, of getting another job. So you set yourself milestones of filling out applications, going on interviews, all the things involved in getting another job. Then as you complete each task, look at where that is on your road to 'getting what you want'. Perhaps by doing that, you'll recognize your forward progress to reaching your goal, and it won't seem like it's 'never going to come'.

• quietone said on Dec 09, 2007....

  awe queenie {{{hugs}}} trav has some good points there.  patience is something you learn...and are learing now.  have faith in what you believe in and  try to aquire the patience that your God has a special plan just for you...trust yourself...stick to your plan and check it often so you can see you have gone forward...just maybe not as fast as you want!  I also used to be very impatinet with myself and others...now not so much.

• queenparanoia said on Dec 09, 2007....

  travler: good advice trav! thank you!!! youre right i should things slow... =)

  quitone:yeah youre right... God has indeed have a plan for me... =)

• travelr712 said on Dec 09, 2007....

  you're welcome qp. don't fret, you've still got allot of years ahead of you to learn these lessons. i think sometimes if we didn't start out like that, we would never learn the value of patience, because we wouldn't have anything to compare it to.

• queenparanoia said on Dec 09, 2007....

  trav. youre right about that... =)

• beyondtheveil said on Dec 09, 2007....

  queen- Patients is like many other things in life that isn't so much something you learn, but a learning process. All things in life are a process you will never stop learning from. The important thing now is that you make patients a friend. Realize that with this friend, the waiting can be much better spent. 

• skald said on Dec 09, 2007....

  It is  good to write your troubles away said my grand dad to me and I say to you. You remind me a lot of me as I was a young girl . Give your self time and I am sure you will accomplish something good and great in your life. Love skald 

• CreativeWoman said on Dec 09, 2007....

  I agree that writing about it helps.  It helps me with many things.  My only advice is try to keep your eye upon the big picture or goal.  Maybe write down a plan of how you want to accomplish things.
  
  Best of luck to you.
  
  CW
  

• lfbno7 said on Dec 09, 2007....

  I agree with Skald's grandpa. I keep a diary, and if something annoys me and I focus my thoughts and write about it, it often seems to help. It's a way of confronting it.

• Ariene said on Dec 09, 2007....

  I guess that I don't believe in being patient, anymore. To me, it's just a waste of time. Although I get annoyed waiting, I don't give up. I just push myself harder until I reach my goal. I used to write about things that bothered me and probably have enough pages to write a book. It just didn't help me accomplish anything, other than that.

• travelr712 said on Dec 09, 2007....

  ariene - being patient doesn't necessarily mean sitting around waiting. it's more of a motivational thing. it's not becoming frustrated and anxious for the goal, but steadily moving forward to achieve it. sounds like you're doing that now.

• destinydiva said on Dec 09, 2007....

  sorry queenie, no advice at all...I am the most impatient person in the world....  :-) xx

• silverwhisper said on Dec 09, 2007....

  queen, you've always struck me as someone who isn't good at going slowly with anything, so i can understand how this would be hard for you.
  
  having said that: i've always found that taking the time to think about how someone might react to things is a good way to slow down, myself.
  
  ed

• queenparanoia said on Dec 09, 2007....

  beyond: thanks for the great advice. youre right i should make patience my friend... =)

  skald: aww thank you skald. if i grew up to be like a loving person like you then thank you... =)

  CW: that's why blogging helps... thanks cw... =)

  lfbn07:  do have a diary. and well soulcast is like my online diary... thanks for dropping by... =)

  ariene: i guess it's different with other people. although youre right i shouldn't give up. thanks for dropping by and welcome to my blog... =)

  trav: i think it's different with other people trav. whatever works for them...

  destiny: were the same... =)

  silver: you know me ed! i'm crazy!!!!! hhehehehehe and welli'll try that.. =)

• RollingC said on Dec 09, 2007....

  Live and learn Queen....for that someone that patience doesn't come naturally....you'll just have to learn it by taking it one day at a time and doing mental exercises on how to be patient with things that drive you batty.  I can't really tell you how to do it for we all have our own techniques on how to control impatience.
  Good luck and God bless.
  Rc
  

• Jenna said on Dec 09, 2007....

  Ahhhh  Queenie.....patience......something that has been very difficult for me as well.  But, in my many years here, I have learned to trust in God.  He does have a plan....and when you can learn to give it to him and trust he will take care of things...well it somehow always seems to work out.  And not always the way we thought it would.  And not always on our timetable.....But....and big but here....you must do the work.  By that I mean...taking the steps to make things happen, praying and trusting. 
   
  I wish you the best....I know you will reach your goals, somehow, someway.  You are a strong young lady my dear.  One who I admire very much. 
   
  Take care of you.....take a deep breath.....and keep moving forward!
  Love to you!
  Jen
   
   

• Eilan said on Dec 09, 2007....

  I can relate, queen.  I'm all about the instant gratification, too.

• openclose said on Dec 09, 2007....

  queen - this may not help because i am not the best at choosing my words and explaining things.  I have a problem with patience myself.  I always have had this problem.  I have learned over the last year that even though waiting for something is the hardest thing for me that I can have patience.  When I was first diagnosed, I wanted it to be fixed 'right now'; I didn't want to wait.  When I decided I wanted to move back home and make the relationship between me and T work, I wanted it 'right now'.  Well, everyone from the time I attempted suicide told me that I was going to have to give it 'time'.  I thought that 'time' was my enemy. (actually I still think so but not to the degree of back then).  I have given it all time.  It drove me to frustration to do that.  the end result is that I have gotten better and I have been allowed to move back home with T and we are working it all out.  The things I thought I wanted 'right now' have come to fruition with patience.  the way I dealt with it was I kept myself very busy.  And I mean VERY busy.  I worked on learning my coping skills again.  I worked on projects I had started and never finished over the years.  I started a new hobby.  Anything at all to keep myself busy.  'Time' finally went by and here I am.  Fairly happy, at home where I am wanted, stablized on meds, no longer going to counseling because the counselor said I was done.

  Busy, queen, stay very busy, is my advice.

• queenparanoia said on Dec 10, 2007....

  rollingc; your right... take things a day at a time... nice seeing you rollingc!!! =)

  jenna: thanks jenna.... that really made me teary eyed... =) yeah i need to trust God above all... =)

  eilan: well i hope you could learn to be patient too... =)

  openclose: youre absolutely right!!! i'll keep busy!!! and maybe i could learn to be patient... well i had some very boring  days and youre right about this!!!! thanks for the great advice... =)

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