• D6fer said on Dec 06, 2007....

  Starchini.....you don't think you could lose the weight without the surgery?
  You are so young.....my advise would be to dig deep and take it on yourself....maybe the counseling will help....get to the bottom of the eating disorder....I have a few tips that work pretty good.
  
  1. Focus on bringing your diet to your conscious mind (don't run on autopilot)
  2. drink a small amount of water before you eat anything (8 ounces is good)
  3. Make sure you are eating at least 1 piece of fruit a day
  4. Start an eating curfew.....nothing after 7 pm....then move it back 1/2 hour per month until you can get it to about 5 pm or earlier
  5. Don't become a rabbit overnight....it's too hard to take on an extreme diet....start by adding a side salad here or there....if you eat at McDonalds, try a side salad instead of fries.
  6. Take a walk everyday if you can...start small and add length to your route weekly.
  7. Stay in touch with your friends here at soulcast....we will help you through this!
  

• Mamie said on Dec 06, 2007....

  oh, you are right there are very many options here, so I am unsure what I would do if I was you. I don't think there is anything wrong with living with your folks for a while. Matter of fact, I think that if/when you have your own place, YOU should be making it work financially, not them. So perhaps this is a chance to hit the restart button.
  Quit despising the hometown. When you are older you will find you have grown to love it for all of its little quirks and you will be glad you made the best of it.
  You will eventually bring your husband and kids back there and oooh and ahhh about this and that....when you are old enough to appreciate it.
  Why won't your insurance cover this ? It seems to me to be a serious health issue...
  if you do try to forge ahead on your own instead, call Oprah and get her to support you on one of her shows...it is all over her web site and also get her trainers book from the library, it is "get with the Program by Bob Green. Good luck, soul sister!

• silverwhisper said on Dec 06, 2007....

  starchini:
  
  OK, your parents both agree you need this surgery. what's your doctor say?
  
  if you feel you need this and don't really have a choice in the matter, i would presume then that the only thing you can do is to move back in w/ your family. how far is your parents' home from your shop?
  
  ed

• starchini said on Dec 06, 2007....

  d6fer...good ideas, but they obviously havnt worked for me : ) ive always been a chunkster and have been dieting since i was born.  Im gonna do the surgery.  Ive tried everything else more than twice.
   
  well mamie them helping me out was supose to be temporary and they would wean me off of their bank account slowly but now they are talking about me living there to pay off the surgery bills and then staying even longer to build up a sturdy savings account then throw me from the 50 foot tall tree to see if i can fly.  EEK!!!  I dont hate the town so much as the people.  Everybody knows everything about everyone.  I hate everyone knowing my business and especially under these circumstances i can hear the talk now "whats Christina doing back home?" "oh she got so fat she needed surgery!" "what a loser"...EEK!!!  Its embarrising enough for only me and my family to know about this but now the whole fucking town will know and ill get lots of sideways poor me head tilts "i heard about your health, how ya doin?" EEK!!!  My father owns his own business and has to provide insurance for that all out of pocket so we cant afford full coverage for my family we have major medical with a deductable of $10,000.  The insurance only covers necessary health costs and laproscoic surgery is still considered "elective" only a few insurances cover this surgery blue cross blue shield is one of them.  Im totally gonna email oprah right now lol thanx mamie!!!
   
  Silver-My Dr.s feels its necessary.  Did you know that only 5% of all obese people diet and keep the weight off successfully?  That was a disapointing statistic.  I thought well maybe i can keep trying and someday keep it off for good but after my Doc told me that i knew i absolutly needed this done!!!  Living at home and working here is not an option.  Its a two hour drive.  : (  The gas money would be outrafeous.
   
  Thanx everybody
   

• Mamie said on Dec 07, 2007....

  good luck, Miss Thang! God be with you and pls keep us posted on the moves you make to this second beginning of your life...ps, I bet that tree that they are gonna throw you from is not really that tall at all :)) hehe, it just seems to be right at th e moment!! Blessed be, mamie

• silverwhisper said on Dec 07, 2007....

  keep us posted, starchini?
  
  ed

• starchini said on Dec 08, 2007....

  i wouldnt dare keep you guys in the dark...im continuously amazed that i dont bore the jeepers out of you all...lol... i sure do appreciate all the support.

• Racerboy said on Jan 29, 2008....

  I'm just curious as to why you dislike the little town so much?  Just because there aren't as many things to do?  If that is the only way to get where you want, make the best of it and get the surgery!  I know living with the folks can be a pain, I had to for almost a year, but it's better than having to live in a cardboard box.  I agree, todays healthcare insurance is worthless.

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