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I've decided that an 8 year old girl is hard to Christmas shop for.

My daughter is at the age where she's constanty telling me she's too old for stuff. Like dolls.

How can she already be too old for that? But she wants more teenager things. She wants clothes. And shoes. And a cell phone.

A cell phone!

I told her that was ridiculous but she said everyone else had one. And she's not wrong.

When I go to pick her up at school, as soon as the bells rings, the kids shuffle down this ramp.

At least 80% of them have whipped out their cell phones and are making calls. To who I wonder? These children are all under the age of 12.

I'm not even sure I knew how to dial the phone when I was 8 years old. Maybe I did. But who the hell would I have been calling unless it was an emergency and my parents needed an ambulance.

This is life nowadays though. She also wants an iPod and a laptop.

I mostly just want my baby girl back. Who is this tiny adult? Why do they want to grow up so fast now?

Last year she still wanted Barbie dolls. But now she says that's so second grade. Only lame people like Barbies.

So how do you shop for a small child who thinks they're all grown up?

I guess she takes after me. I used to think I was all grown up too at that age. But I still didn't have a cell phone.

Mostly because they didn't exist yet. Maybe I would have wanted one if they did?

But I'm still not buying her that.

 



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  • Eilan said on Dec 02, 2007....
    I don't remember getting into the expensive toys, makeup, clothes, and shoes phase until I was 12 or 13.

    My seven-year-old wouldn't mind having a cell phone.  She's not getting one.  I've noticed that her "toy" choices are gradually becoming more expensive.  This year it's a Nintendo DS and American Girl dolls.

    My oldest, who's almost 10, is still pretty oblivious.
  • evil_twin said on Dec 02, 2007....
    I don't get this either. I mean, when we were kids, we had to wait until we were in high school before we were allowed to have a phone in our room. And even then, it wasn't our OWN phone line. It was just a phone. Nowadays every kid out of diapers has a cell phone. I guess it just proves that times really do change a lot.

    But I see no reason for a kid that age to need her own phone. Does she even talk on the house phone? As for the clothes and shoes, well I guess that's a girl thing. And at least you don't have to fight the crowds at Toys R Us anymore. So that's something!

    -Kyle
  • minniemouse said on Dec 02, 2007....

    Ugh....my 8 year old hasn't asked for a cell phone....yet...but there is a whole list of other expensive toys she wants...American girl dolls, Webkins....a Wii....she can forget the Wii....I told her Santa ran out.  My 8 and 4 have ganged up and asked for a DVD player for the car.  I said HELL no...ok maybe not hell, more like heck.  Who am I kidding, I'm lucky I didn't say Fuck no....lol....I told them TV has no business in a car....they will sit there and be bored out of their mind just like I did as a kid....worked for me and look how I turned out....  :-D 

    I still think they need an "off" or maybe a "pause" button....MM

  • Mamie said on Dec 02, 2007....
    hold that line, Mr. Box! I had my daughter wait until she was in 7th grade before she could get her ears pierced and 8th grade until she earned a cell phone. It was harder for me than for her and she totally appreciated the options when she was older.
     
    She was 13 and then 14 years old. Yes, she thought it was completely unfair and oh, also, I had her pick one activity each season, not five like some of her friends. She became really good at a few of them and then ultimately stuck with those, but she never burned out on "childhood". Good luck!
  • travelr712 said on Dec 02, 2007....
    things move so fast that it's hard to know when the right time to give your child more responsible priveledges is. especially when most of their friends already have that priveledge. how do you do what you know is right, when you're risking their resentment in the process? and very few guidelines for you in the matter?
    well, you already know you're going to do what's right, box. you just don't want your daughter to resent you. having raised my daughter to the age of 22, i can tell you, she had resentments, no matter what i did. that's the nature of growing up, it's part of it. but the good news is, they get over it. especially after they get married. then they have a whole new man to resent! :-)
  • nursecutie said on Dec 02, 2007....

    I think 8 is too young for a cell phone too. But I do know that lots and lots of kids that age have them. It's silly to me. We never had stuff like that and we were just fine. I think of all the gifts she wants the ipod is probably the most reasonable......but I am not sure what sorts of music an 8 year old likes! LOL

    At least clothes and shoes are safe! They have soooo many cute little girls clothes that i want a daughter just to shop for! I think Harper will have lots of cute things from her auntie Natty this year........LOL

    xxoo natalie xxoo

  • queenparanoia said on Dec 03, 2007....
    kids do grow fast nowadays... be thankful she's not askig for make up and dating boys yet...
  • preacherman said on Dec 03, 2007....
    8 yrs. old is way too young for a cell phone.
  • tizzygirl said on Dec 03, 2007....
    my niece is 8, she is getting an i-pod for christmas, the ones that plays videos too I guess, as for what I'm getting her, books, that kid loves to read!  Luckily she wouldn't even dream of getting a cellphone!  But I know that many of her friends have one and apparently they all text each other all day long.....cellphones were not popular when I was that young but I remember when I was about 13 I got a pager....but 8?  I still liked dolls :)
  • uniquely-ironic said on Dec 03, 2007....
    I don't get it either.  I realize that we really didn't have cell phones when we were that age, but I don't remember really talking to anyone other than the cousin I lived around the corner from.  I do remember playing with dolls, riding bikes, etc.
     
    If you do cave in and buy the cell phone get one of those phones that only allows them to call certain programmed numbers.  I would guess that a child that age is also going to loose a few phones, so I wouldn't buy anything expensive.
     
    In my experience with my kids, my daughter couldn't keep track of her phone until this year (she's 14) and even now it's hit or miss with whether or not it will be turned on.
  • soleme said on Dec 03, 2007....
    I purchased a cell phone for my daughter last year at the age of 8 yrs old. Not because she asked for one, but out of necessitate.  Last year I was working two jobs and sometimes I would be late picking her up from school.  This way she knew that I was en-route to pick her up.
     
    I bought her the least expense phone I could find and pay for her minutes as whe need them.  This has taught her to be responsible
  • skald said on Dec 03, 2007....
    My 9 year old grand daughter has had a cell phone for a year. She actually got her mothers old one but her mother says that the girl can then phone her to fetch her from here and there.

    She does  not use it to chat on it.
  • Fallyn said on Dec 03, 2007....
    my 8 year old doesn't want a cell phone.....she wants a gaming system....like playstation or something......
    she tends toward extreme introvert anyway....so i'm not sure it's such a good idea.

    it's my soon to be 6 year old that i'm worried about with the cell phone stuff.......she is so susceptible to peer pressure......it will happen sooner rather than later i do believe.

  • polarheart said on Dec 03, 2007....
    This is precisely why I am going to resign from my job and move me and my family to a secluded island somewhere in the South Pacific where I can keep Tigger young and innocent for as long as possible!!! lol
     
    It is a sad sad thing that kids grow up so fast these days, we can only try and guide them and inform them, and of course PRAY!
  • pickersplock said on Dec 03, 2007....
    Hah, I'll let you use Mr. Plock's answer for said question.
     
    Child, "Dad, can I have a cell phone?"
     
    Mr. Plock, "Why yes, you can have a cell phone, when I can call you up on your newspaper delivery route and ask how you're doing."
  • Barefoot_Salsa said on Dec 03, 2007....
    My niece who is 6 asked for a flat screen, iphone and and Ipod.  I know this because my sister and I laugh about it.
  • Fallyn said on Dec 03, 2007....
    barefoot....i completely see my six year old asking for that too. *sigh*
  • travelr712 said on Dec 03, 2007....
    and while you're at it, could you get me one of each too? :-)
  • Fallyn said on Dec 03, 2007....
    *laughing* NO KIDDING.
  • pickersplock said on Dec 03, 2007....
    A flat screen...........nah, my son would probably get that, because Mr. Plock has been hinting about getting one too.
  • Fallyn said on Dec 03, 2007....
    i don't think i'll ever let my kids have a tv in their own rooms. ...not till they're in their older teens anyway.
  • pickersplock said on Dec 03, 2007....
    Oh, they wouldn't get it in their room.  I won't let them have a computer or a tv in their room.  We don't even have one in our bedroom.
  • destinydiva said on Dec 03, 2007....
    aaw minniemouse your comment had my lmao!!  :-) and pickers that is classic!  sorry mr box totally lost my train of thought ..............  am re reading :-)


  • Fallyn said on Dec 03, 2007....
    pickers, exactly.
  • destinydiva said on Dec 03, 2007....
    aaw mr box, you sound so upset about her growing up,I can imagine you being like steve martin in father of the bride when it comes to her getting married :-) really sweet :-)

    Oh i so know the growing up fast thing tho...uhh thats so second grade!!  my daughters and english and she sounds exacty like your daughter!!  I blame american tv shows!!  :-)  they are very grown up, I can actually sit through them and enjoy them!! :-)  

    but your daughter does have a point....  everyone else has one...   and in this day and age, I think they can be a great thing for kids safteywise so long as they get one with a set of groundrules included!!!  

    My daughter getting a cell phone fell right inline with her wanting to venture out of our tiny crescent with her friends... (she was 9)

     And tho I wasnt totally happy about either, I realised that as a parent you have to learn to let go, so they can learn to hold on for themselves. I think your mum had the same way of thinking because look how you and kyle have turned out... totally responsible, you two are really smart grounded wise sensible guys!

    anyways...  she got the phone and she had only so much credit a month and she had to have credit in her phone if she was going out of our crescent...(so that she could phone me and let me know where she is)   so she very quickly learnt not to run up a huge bill an to budget her calls across the month...  and she learnt to be responsible at the same time whilst I had the security of her always being only a phonecall away!

    thats the good part ....  it is actually good for you that she has a cellphone ..you always know where she is..you can always get hold of her ..so no watching the clock ticking and panicking where is she...you can just call her!!

    I bet after a few months she will wish she never had a cell phone!!  :-)  xx

  • destinydiva said on Dec 03, 2007....
    did I actually answer your question then or just go in to a huge waffle moment :-) 
  • rupert7 said on Dec 03, 2007....
    Australia is, I think, the biggest user/owner of the cell phone per capita,  (we call them mobile phones) of anywhere in the world. I heard that there is now a phone specially designed for the very young,one that even a 5 year old can use easily! And of course the very young is the target market! We in Australia seem obsessed with these phones! And the security aspect is the big marketing ploy aimed at the parents...well - they are the ones paying arn't they? There are a lot of freaky weirdo's around (here in Aussie land anyway) so it may not be a bad idea, but at what age do you give a kid a phone? At what age do pedophiles show an interest? It has become a scary world, I am afraid.
  • Fallyn said on Dec 03, 2007....
    destiny...that actually might be a very good idea.


  • Mr_Box said on Dec 04, 2007....

    I apologize for not responding to your comments sooner. I was away yesterday.

    But I do appreciate everyone who read this and commented. It seems like the opinion is fairly evenly divided. Some of you think it's way too young, and others think it's okay.

    The matter of safety and security is a draw to buying her a phone. But I suppose I just felt like it was too soon for her to have such a grown up toy.

    After all, the only places she goes without us are her friends houses. And I can easily walk over there and check on her if I need to.

    I used to think when she was 12 I would get her one. That seemed a reasonable age. But perhaps I'll lower it to 10. 10 is the new 12 apparently.

    Thanks again to everyone who offered their opinions. I appreciated seeing both sides of the argument.

  • travelr712 said on Dec 04, 2007....
    LOL box, 10 is the new 12!
  • husbandhater said on Dec 07, 2007....

    Mr Box sounds like the wish Christmas list of my 9yrold. The cellphone,I-pod,lap top, he even had the nerve to tell me he wanted 1,000$ for christmas and named at least 3video games priced at 50 bucks a peice that he wanted. This is the one doing bad in school.

    This is no longer the age of innocents. This is the age of electronics. We have a society of kids who are 8,9 and more going on 25yrs old. I called them the gimme gimme generation and I am right. They don't know the expense or the hard work it takes to aquire the things that they are asking for. I think they just think we pull these things out of a Magic hat like a magician.

    Also in this period of time we want to give them all that we didn't have as children so in our rush to appease them we purchase these things. My 9 and 11yrold share a Nintendo Wii system which they had from last Christmas. This prized item(at least in their eyes) gets taken care of better than most of their other toys.

    This year no cellphone,no 50$ games especially with bad behavior in school, and no other expensive gifts that aren't age appropriate nor a tool of educational purpose. She wants a laptop get her the V-Tech ones that are age and grade appropriate. They help her with her reading ,math,science and a host of other subjects that she might need help with or could stand to know about. Thats what I did. Good luck Mr.Box! 

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