Hi Fearing Hunny!! Thank you for putting a smile on my dial.
Its all of the aforementioned. Some things have happened at work that are in direct opposition to my beliefs. . .and I feel, no I know, that I cannot be a part of that stuff.
Furthermore, I have not been able to balance work and home life. Work has been so busy and stressful that it has eaten into my time with Mr Polar and Tigger. This week Tigger was really ill and Mr Polar took him for an emergency appt at the Drs on Wed. . .the Dr said he did the right thing to bring him coz it could have developed into pneumonia! I was at work when I heard the news. . .it broke me in two!
Also, I have not been able to really relax at home or on the weekends because I've been so worried about the deadlines at work. I just cant take it all anymore.
I have spoken to Mr Polar and he is right behind me. He does not want me to be unhappy and he wants me to do what my convictions tell me is right. I also had a long chat with my brother in Namibia and he too encouraged me to follow what I believe is right in my heart. So, as things stand, I will be handing in my resignation on Monday.
Of course this is it in a nutshell. . .if I get more time this weekend I will send you an email. Thanks for being a great friend!!
Love Polar
I'm afraid I don't really know you or your situation.
But the advice I would like to give is that your job is where you spend most of your life. And if it contradicts your beliefs and/or makes you miserable, it's time to move on.
Your career choices should give you a sense of accomplishment and pride. And if it doesn't, then it's the wrong job.
Good luck to you.
Something else will turn up, I mean workwise.
Part time work is a wonderful thing when you have children.
I'm glad your family is standing by you.
I think you've made the right decision.
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Polar }}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} I'm sending you this hug b/c as a working mother of the world we are forced to make incresingly difficult choices. My week was a tough one also. No one was sick like Tigger but alot of kid and job stuff. My mother understood my venting and she said all the right things but I felt so sick and disappointed with myself for the things I said about my son. I didn't say them in his presence of course but I have alot on my plate too.
Polar this is one time I wish for the good ole'days when we could be mothers and we didn't have to be everything for everybody spreading ourselves so thin. I wish the cost of living wasn't so HIGH that I need to be outside my home. This is no longer a choice it has increasingly become a neccessity.
Pollie......i am sorry for this heavy heart of yours.....but you did the right thing.......trust me...:-)
I had the same dilemma years ago ....i was working for this newspaper where ethic and professionalism were just words to use in a crossword....i had been put in the middle of few nasty situations and i was overworked and subpaid for the load of responsability i was handling....
I had to overcome a shakly situation with my marriage too and i was at my first month of pregnancy..suddendly it hit me....i wasnt happy working and i was draggging that problems at home too...
I asked myslef:.... what do you really want to do?
I wanted to have a happy pregnancy because i always knew in my heart i would have only one baby and i want do it right......my husband hated seeing me so stressed and frustrated so we talked about it and i took the decision to resign ..
Not only...i sued the newspaper for all the money they owned me for overtime not retributed...i won....
You did right..you have all my respect because you tried and you didn't give up at the first difficulty
But its true....if you feel it in this way...your family comes first...
Plus...i want my smiling Pollie back!..{{{{{{hugs}}}}}
When I was young, poor and idealistic I took a couple jobs as a tooling designer with two defense contractors. One contractor was a prime developer for the cluster bombs the other a switching device for the merv warhead; both very corrupt in their dealing with the DOD when it came to billing. I never forgot the lousy feeling I had doing it.
Kumar, yes things are getting better. . .thanks so much for asking. I am having another meeting with director tomorrow and we will discuss other options instead of resigning.
Polar x
